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Lois   

Welcome to the podcast, More to Life with Faith and Lois.

Faith

I’m Faith .

Lois   

And I’m Lois.

Faith 

Our podcast explores the things you face in life that inspire and daunt you.

Lois   

Well, hi Faith. So good to meet together again this week.

Faith

It’s always good to be together.

Lois   

Yes, it’s so much fun and welcome everyone to 2020 in case you’ve been gone for a few weeks. We are delving into a huge new phase of our conversations and you know, last week we talked very much about being intentional and we talked about relationship and letting people around you know, how much they mean to you. And that was really important for me to share with a couple of people and just let them know – this is what you mean to me in my life. And you know, people aren’t ready for that because it’s kind of like, Oh have I done something wrong? And it’s like, no, this is actually beautiful. So that’s really, really cool that even on the periphery of those people who aren’t necessarily in my close set of friends that I am valuing the relationship I have with those people as well.

Faith

That’s so good.

Lois   

It is. So if you want our podcast and your email, by the way, please sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.moretolifewithfaithandlois.com and react to our podcasts on whatever platform you listen. So here we are staying with this month theme of your outlook for the coming year. And today we bring you Episode 107: What’s your outlook on your body?

Faith  

Wow. And I can hear all the groans. So you get through the whole people that are listening to this right now. That’s just always an issue that raises a wall of defense. Usually, even if you’re in great shape, there’s a lot of defensiveness that can come around talking about the body. But what we want to address here is how we see ourselves and how everything is really connected. Because when we’re talking about these four areas that we’re, we’re going to be discussing over this coming year on each topic, everything is connected and we can’t separate it. So if something isn’t working with the body, it’s going to affect the rest of us.

Lois 

It sure is.

Faith

So that’s what we’re dealing with. And so you know, my outlook on my body is one health and how to make it better and then at times, how to give it grace because there are times in life where things can be more difficult or you don’t feel as well. And then how to give yourself the space and time to let your body rest and let it be in a place. And sometimes then we see some negative things happen, like some weight gain or weakness or different things like that. But I give myself grace with the idea that it will come back. I know what to do to get it back. And this is a time that needed for where I’m at right now.

Lois 

That is really beautiful because that is, it’s where you are right now. It is as much as we would like it to be different for some areas. And for me, I’m coming to grips with, I can’t do what I used to do any longer and that’s my body telling me different ways to shift things up, whether I want to or not. But I’m just learning that. And so to thrive I have to pay a lot more attention to every single thing that involves my body. You know, I used to be able to eat whatever I wanted or drink whenever I wanted. I can’t do that anymore. And I have to look at those kinds of things and how they affect my body and actually then to listen when things don’t work. Where before I would go, Oh, that’s no problem. I just won’t try that again. No, that actually really didn’t work and that’s going to harm me. And, and now I’m paying attention to that. And it’s this whole idea I guess, of waking up, of being intentional and of not taking my body for granted that, you know, if I really do treat it just like something I don’t care about, it’s going to do the same right back to me and let me know exactly for that. So if you can understand this process of beginning to pay attention to your body like I’m starting to do right now, I’m seeing the response that I’m treating what I have as a gift instead of this obligation that I’ve got to do this this way. I don’t want to have to do that, but that I would like to thrive as long as humanly possible. And to do that I have to take care of my body.

Faith

And it’s making that slight shift of moralizing your body that it’s either good or it’s bad. It’s either right or it’s wrong. That’s either fat or it’s fit. And so we have to make some adjustments with the all or nothing approach to our body and say, where am I at and what is it that I can do and what is the best thing that I can give to my body to help it.

Lois 

Because this is the only body we have and have to remind myself of that I don’t get to trade this in. You know, I can do other things to my body. I can color my hair, I can do a lot of things that can make me feel good, but my body itself, if I choose to not pay attention, it will let me know. And more so in this wonderful season of life as I call myself, getting more and more seasoned.

Faith

Lovely. I like that.

Lois 

Yes, I like it too. Well, we want to be very thankful to a number of resources including www.tinybuddha.com and www.ink.com that are really offering some really great ideas on how to take care of your body, which we hope are going to offer you a wonderful outlook on your body in Episode 107.

Faith

And one of the first things they suggest, the slowing down, which I’ve already said is one of the things I’m claiming for my year is to slow myself down and not just slow my pace, everything of timing, but how I think and how I process and not having the expectation that everything has to fall in line quickly, but that it can evolve. It can process more and become richer. So whether it’s physical or it’s emotional or it’s mental or it’s spiritual, I can allow it to, I don’t know, ferment a little bit and to make a finer wine out of my life rather than pushing it to get something processed quickly.

Lois 

All right. You just said ferments. So I have to jump in because I’ve started making kombucha and I have learned this fermentation process, which takes time and it requires me to slow down. And I remember when I was first trying to make the very first, it’s called a SCOBY. It’s kind of like the mother or the sourdough starter, whatever you want to call it, that thing that hangs inside, this tea that you’re trying to make. And I kept checking it because it said it would take 21 to 28 days. Well, you know me three days, come on, isn’t it? Ready yet? And it took 22 days for me to get a SCOBY that would actually work. That was a very long period of time. But then when you go through your second fermentation and you start the process – now every seven days, I have a habit that I do on Sundays, but I had to slow it down and now I don’t even check. I mean I burp it every now and then. If you make kombucha, you know what I’m talking about. So I get to this process where I’m not rushing it anymore and faith, it works by slowing down because things are fermenting and now I’m ingesting and drinking some of this wonderful mixture that that comes together and I know that it’s doing good things to my body.

Faith

You go, so you had to learn it with hands on.

Lois 

If you want my kombucha recipe, you know how to reach me. So I’ll help you out on that.

Faith

And then here’s this other point is listen to the pain because your body is telling you something we forget. I mean this great song we grew up with – the toe bone’s connected to the foot bone and the foot bones connect them to the shin bone all the way up. I mean we have to remember everything is connected within our body and if something is hurting, it could be something else that’s going on elsewhere. But we’re feeling the pain in that particular area. And sometimes it is a sprained ankle and we need to take care of that. But if you ever sprained ankle, you know how your entire body aches. So it’s not just taking care of the sprain, it’s taking care of the whole of you and giving yourself the rest and that whatever helps you feel better. A massage. So listening to the pain is an alarm and we need to not ignore it.

Lois 

And here’s your whole theme of intentionality, Faith, that’s running through not just relationships, but how you look at your body or how you hear your body or how you feel, what’s going on so that then you respond because you’re intentionally wanting to take care of it.

Faith

Yes, yes. And I’ve gotten better health by listening to the early clues. And so the first sign of something which can be so subtle, I’m listening now in a way I never have before and I’ve been able to ward off all kinds of illnesses because of that.

Lois 

And this is a gift to your body. Yes. Is to do those kinds of things. Another is to make time for exercise and we all know how much activity will you know, shake up things in our brain and allow us to think more clear thoughts for years. One of my brothers has been an avid athlete and he actually says that it’s part of his mental health. If he doesn’t get X amount of miles in every single day on his bike or running or doing whatever he does, he feels, you know, like something is not quite right. I have never gotten to the extent that he does on a daily basis, but I love exercise because I know every time I do it what I feel. And for you, exercise might mean getting up in the morning and walking your dog or just taking a walk outside. Just that breath of fresh air is something that comes at you from a totally different perspective that involves movement of whatever sort is awesome. Or you may be an Uber extreme athlete. Kudos to you and send us.your pictures. We want to know other people who do that a lot better than we do.

Faith

But a key point is what you just said is find what works for you.

Lois 

Yes, because otherwise it won’t work. It won’t. Yeah, it won’t. And don’t try to do what other people are doing. When people ask me my exercise regimen, I actually don’t want to share that because it may be the absolute wrong thing for you. Now, I will tell you if you really do ask me, but it’s all about what fits best into your schedule, what fits best for you. I just know that movement is important, however you’re able to do that. So we have some great news to share with you from our sponsor, A Stepping Stone. So if you or a loved one is suffering from an addiction or mental health concern, we want to introduce you to a treatment program that specializes in substance abuse disorders and a variety of mental health issues.

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Lois 

So back on Episode 107: What’s your outlook on your body? And we’re looking at a number of ways where you can take care of your body, which might help you with that outlook on your body.

Faith

And a real important one is sleep. If you do not get enough sleep, hands down, you are not going to do well because sleep deprivation compounds and it builds up and eventually you end up exhausted. And you may be able to push through and do another day and and get up and you get into that routine but it is taking a toll on your body.

Lois 

Yeah, I think for so many years, this was one of those things we dismissed. Like you know when it’ll catch up, I’ll catch up later and somebody would say I’d catch up, you know when I die or I’ll catch up, you know, much later in life. And the truth is it just starts eroding. And for me lack of sleep means a really bad mood because I’m just, I can’t put my thoughts together, I’m exhausted and it has nothing to do with anybody else. It has to do with the fact that I haven’t slept and my body is telling me, please let me sleep.

Faith

And if you have a sleep disorder, please get help. Yes, there’s help out there for that and to seek out specialists. And so if it’s an ongoing issue for you, don’t let it be. Take action. And don’t ignore the signs of I can’t sleep as being okay. It’s not okay.

Lois 

Another thing to consider is how to eat well. And by this we mean look at what you put into your body. You know, I think some of you might get a little upset if you think that people are trying to hammer a type of healthy food outlook into your life. Well, the idea is what makes your body sing? So that when you put it in, if you know it’s starting to hurt you, you get stomach cramps, you have really bad gas – I mean things that happen, your body is, is letting you know immediately that this food is not agreeing with it. So what foods will nourish your body and it does turn out that most of them are healthy, that they are green and leafy or that they are packed with nutrients or that they have lots of protein. Whatever it is that you’ve discovered works well in your body. Pay attention to that and nourish your body with those things that will make your body feel better.

Faith

That’s so true and it’s interesting that when people sometimes will begin to eat healthy, it’s maybe hard at the beginning, but once I started eating more vegetables, I hear this a lot of times from different women that I’ve talked to and they’ll say, now I crave broccoli. I crave it, I want it, or I want a salad. It’s like your body will get different cravings as you change your diet. But again, you have to choose things that fit for you. Don’t do the all or nothing. Don’t do things that, oh, I can’t stand broccoli. Well then don’t eat it. Eat something else. The idea is it has to fit for you.

Lois 

And you know, some of you are unbelievable gourmet cooks, so you like recipes that have a lot of directions and many ingredients and some of you really like something fast. So you can have either one of those things by going online. I tell you that, you know, I have a myriad of cookbooks which I love and I have resources online. Uh, how do I cook the best chicken breasts? How do I get this rump roast just the way I want it. I literally go online and I want things that are going to be done not like in two minutes but fairly quickly that I can look ahead, that I can plan for my menu. So there are ways to learn how to do those things that will be more healthy by taking that extra step of getting a recipe that might work.

Faith

And one last thing. If you are a single person and you just don’t want to cook, there are so many delivery of healthy foods that you can get right to your doorstep and you can cook them within less than a half hour.

Lois 

That’s a brilliant suggestion. So eat well and your body will be really grateful.

Faith

And mental health. Oh my goodness, this is so important and it’s one of the areas that is dismissed all the time. I can handle it, I’m strong enough, it doesn’t matter. I’m okay, I’ll get through it. Those are all kinds of terms that we can tell ourselves instead of giving ourselves the mental health break and attention that it needs. If you’re depressed, if you’re sad, if you’re grieving, if you’re hurting, if your heart is broken. I mean those are all things that are affecting your mental health and normally, yes, you can work through it over time, but if you can’t, then take action. There are wonderful people out there that can do short term counseling with you. It does’t have to be years and years. It just means let’s work through this so that you can feel better and have someone support you through a difficult time in your life.

Lois 

And we include mental health as part of the body because it’s, as we mentioned before, it’s all connected. If you go from the toe, you’re going to end up at your pregnancy point and inside your brain is your mind. And so when we’re taking care of ourselves like this, it’s really critical to have all of these pieces working in concert together. And you know, I’ve mentioned a couple of times that I take these breaks during the day now every 90 minutes so that I can kind of incorporate what I’m writing or reading or studying with my intellect, mind the emotions that I have as I’m absorbing this information in whatever I’m doing. And then being able to get outside or walk up the stairs so that my body moves in concert with all of this. So if you can think about that, the mental health piece that goes into this involves your body and it’s really important to keep all connected. Instead of saying, well, I’ll deal with my mental health here, I’ll deal with my physical body here. We are one whole person here.

Faith

Totally. And even some of the ads that have been on TV for someone who has depression and the caption is depression hurts and it talks about how it affects the actual body. The body actually starts to feel the pain and it affects the actual nervous system. So take that to heart. You are all connected and don’t just let it sit there, deal with it.

Lois 

And love yourself. You know when you respect your body and care for it, there may be things you look at and go, well I just don’t like this part of my body. And you know what? We’re one whole thing and it’s the body we have and it’s the body we get to take care of. And that’s the body that can change. By the way, there are things that can improve and change and they can also get where they are and go worse. But we have a choice to make some of those decisions for our body. So when we love ourselves, it’s really interesting to say that this body, this only body that we have is a gift and how do I take care of it in the best way possible?

Faith

That’s exactly how to approach it. Instead of looking at it with judgmental eyes, look at your body with compassion and with care and with the ability that this is indeed a gift. And make the changes if you need to, but to expect yourself to be looking or being a certain type that is not your type. It’s learning to love the body you were given.

Lois 

When we start talking our bod, our bodies like this in a positive light, it really changes even how we interact with other people. So when we appreciate what we have and what we’re able to do and work within those parameters and give our bodies more space to be as healthy as they can. It’s interesting how things start to settle and we become more comfortable with who we are.

Faith

That’s really good. Your body reflects you and having an outlook that recognizes the importance of your body will improve your overall wellbeing.

Lois 

Whatever is missing or whatever you’ve been putting off, it is never too late to make adjustments and watch your body thrive.

Faith

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Lois 

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Faith

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Lois 

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Faith

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Lois 

We’ll be back next week.