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Lois 

Welcome to the podcast More to Life with Faith and Lois.

 

Faith 

I’m Faith.

 

Lois 

And I’m Lois.

 

Faith 

Our podcast explores the things you face in life that inspire and daunt you.

 

Lois 

Good morning Faith.

 

Faith 

Well, it is a good morning, Lois.

 

Lois 

It is that especially as we’re looking at discernment in every phase of our lives, we arrive at the fourth installment today. We have tackled spirituality, your body, and relationships,

 

Faith 

And all are so important. And where we’re going today is equally important.

 

Lois 

That’s right. And so if you have missed any of these podcasts, we would love for you to check them out on our website, www.moretolifewithfaithandlois.com or go to your favorite podcast platform, whatever works for you. Do you want to newsletter By the way, if you do, go to our website, and you can sign up to get our podcasts every single week in your email, and so today, we are on episode117: What place does discernment have in your craft?

 

Faith 

Oh, and this was so important, because our craft is something we do several days a week. And it needs to be alive. And it needs to be an element that helps us do our craft even better.

 

Lois 

So accessing this discernment, Faith, as it deals with your workplace can be empowering, but how do you use it in your craft?

 

Faith 

Well, it is that moment of pause. It’s that moment where I don’t speak. I don’t jump in. I wait. And I listen. And I kind of size up what is happening here. And that’s just not only about what I am doing in my work, it is also the first thing in the morning with how do I start my day in and so I’m observing and taking that pause, how is my husband How am I because that is setting the foundation for where I’m going for the rest of the day. So it’s that moment of pause, to listen, and to look, to hear, and to take in. Because I’m going to go deeper with my craft, with discernment, especially in my field of counseling to help others.

 

Lois 

You know, I’ve begun to really trust myself. And the more I put trust in myself, it applies to everything, including my craft, we already discussed the body and relationships and spirituality, but in particular, in my craft, as a life coach, when I meet with people who I believe are whole, I know that somewhere in this conversation, they know what to do, but they’ve been stuck in something is blocking them something is in the way something is missing. I mean, all of these things apply, which doesn’t mean you’ll never find it. It just means it needs to be uncovered a little bit, but I trust myself to not dig it up for the other person. And so the way I’ve learned discernment in my craft is to allow that discovery to take place at the pace that the person wants for themselves. And that’s huge because I now apply it to my relationships, I apply it in the home, and all of those kinds of things. As we look at our podcasts, we, we kind of know where we want to go. But we have to certain things have to unfold as they do in a certain time. And yet we trust the process because we’re practicing. And I can discern that things are going to keep unfolding as they are, because I trust myself.

 

Faith 

That’s really good.

 

Lois 

These are new insights that are coming over the years as you really practice and as faith and I’ve said so many times in these last, especially these last series of podcasts, we cannot do this without practice.

 

Faith 

Absolutely. Practice makes perfect.

 

Lois 

I’m getting there – discernment is accessing the wisdom of our intuition to discover what is essential and true. And so here are some great articles. If you want to look at discernment in your workplace.There’s one website called www.bullyfreeatwork.com and www.baysidesolutions.com that gave us a really wonderful heads up on some of this insight. So what does it look like to find room for discernment in your craft?

 

Faith 

Well, first thing is to trust the instincts that you have. And again, let’s separate out instincts from judgment. Because that’s so important because if we are judging, that’s not necessarily instincts, instincts will help you make a decision, but it’s not going to place judgment on what is going on. So we want healthy decisions made and that’s where discernment will take you to that. But it is about discerning what is going on in my workplace, what is going on in the relationships, my workload, what is expected of me, and is it balanced? Is it the way it should be for good, healthy work to flourish? Because that’s what every company wants is good work happening and there’s production and that it flourishes. If it’s not, then maybe discernment is needed, like what is missing? What could make this work better for me and for maybe those around me, and to be able to come up with some solutions, especially for yourself, as to how to make this work for your life.

 

Lois 

And if you’re going to trust your instincts, the practice that it takes to get you to where you are, in that moment, is essential. And so we started talking about relationships and move to the body and spirituality. And you can see how these all blend together, that as you begin to understand yourself better manage your body, respect your spirituality and those around you and have discernment and all of those places. When you come into the workplace. And there’s something that doesn’t seem to be going the way you think it should be, or something that’s really excelling and you want to make it go better. That’s where your instinct can come in, because you’ve already primed it. Yeah. So if we’re not priming ourselves to understand what’s going on and to have discernment, then it becomes extremely difficult in your craft, because you might not be paying attention.

 

Faith 

Right? Right. And we tend to sometimes enter our workplace with the mindset that I just have to do my job. Yes. And it’s so much more than that. This is a place for you to express yourself to be creative. And to find a place of something where something flows within you, that flows out into the company, rather than I just have to do this.

 

Lois 

Well, and that’s why Faith and I so often talk about what your passion is your identity, what you want to do, because if you do go in just to hit a time card, then you may not have any correlation with how this influences the rest of your life. And that, sadly, is how poor decisions can be made very easily because they don’t mean anything to you. So when we’re talking about the whole person as we bring that whole person We’ve just been wonderfully exploring into the workplace. Well, then here we are with all of these insights and abilities, and discernment. So trust your instincts. So when somebody I often hear you know, I’m trusting my gut, oh, you can’t do that. Well, if you’ve been practicing and preparing, then I’m probably going to listen to what you have to say, if it’s a gut instinct.

 

Faith 

That’s really good. And then seek full information. Wow, how do you see that Lois?

 

Faith 

Well, I think that I do want to trust my instincts, but then I want to balance that by saying, okay, is it true? Is it absolutely true? Let me check this out, especially if it’s an instinct that I have that might be a little bit on the fringe. So then what I want to do is, find out where I can dig deeper, not just to take what I think or what someone else thinks at face value. It’s that whole thing we talked about in the spiritual realm of discernment of testing. Okay, is it true so, I want more information and I want to explore I want to ask it isn’t to downplay what the institute is it’s to actually give it validity. Because if I’m really doing what I say I’m doing, I’m practicing, I’m developing, I’m opening up, then yes. And here’s my reason. We all want research. I mean, when we do our podcasts, we want research, we, we have a lot of great fun ideas, faith, and I do. And we know that there are other people who can add to that body of work, and we bring them in, because they’re good.

 

Faith 

I have a lot of clients who will oftentimes say, you know, I could run this business better than when it’s being run, or I see how this could be done so much better. And they get frustrated because it’s not being done that way. And I’ve always encouraged them, you’re picking up on something. And this is an opportunity for you to really investigate, to research and to put together a possible plan. Why don’t you write this out, not how it could be done better so that you You’re the one who knows, but rather get some research. Like if we do this, this is what I see the end result would be And put together an actual business proposal of saying this is what I’ve observed. And I’m seeing that if we did, ABC, we would have good results down the road, and then propose it. But be intentional. It’s coming back to being intentional. Don’t just gripe about it. If you see something, and you really have a strong sense, intuitive sense of discernment, that it could be better do something about it and put together a plan.

 

Lois 

And all of these elements that we’re talking about here in Episode 117: What place does discernment having your craft build on each other? So you start with having an instinct and wondering or someone else does and you’re exploring that then you go to get more information so that you can actually put together a proposal like you just suggested, I love that. So you’ve started to formulate and and the third step is to work to distinguish the fact that From assumptions, and this is where, you know, especially if you want to change up the whole company, which can happen, it really can’t happen, check for biases that might be yours that might influence what you’re presenting. And what we mean here is it doesn’t mean it’s just one more level. It’s one more check and balance before you make this big presentation. Because if you actually only go with what you think is the right idea, and don’t consider anyone elses opinions, then the likelihood of you being able to pass through of any kind of change is very small, unless you own everything, and most of us don’t.

 

Faith 

Well, we got to come back to the discernment within ourselves. Where is this idea coming from? And a good question to ask is that if you have a really good idea about change, is to say, Why do I want this and oftentimes what will come up as if they would do what they’re supposed to do, then it would be better for me and that’s not the goal. It’s about better for the company. It’s better for everyone. It’s not just about you. And a lot of times these assumptions that are made come just from a driving force within us that we want change. We want something to be different, so that we feel better. And that’s not a good reason. It’s about the whole, not just you,

 

Lois 

And Faith earlier on, you’d mentioned something that we fold into every part of our podcasts. And that is, you know, we’ve come up with an instinct, we’ve looked at information now we’re checking for assumptions. And guess what, we’re slowing down. Yes, we’re taking a pause. We don’t have to rush in and I think sometimes for those of us who move fast and I do move really quickly, I have learned the importance of that pause, to start going forward and then to say, okay, am I going in just my direction have I taken in all of the other input even after I validated my information, and it’s given me much more clarity and my more confidence than as I present that it is for the whole company. It is for the whole group that we’re working towards instead of just for myself.

 

Faith 

That’s so important. Yeah, so important. And another thing is to choose the best path. So what does that mean to you, Lois?

 

Lois 

Well, I think once you kind of understand where you want to go, what is the direction you want to bring other people along with you on there usually are more than one way to there’s more than one way to do something. So I think that when you are looking at everybody that’s around you in the company or in the group in which you’re working, and you’re trying to build on these elements of having discernment in your workplace, then it’s on you. If you’re creating this idea, to look at what the best path would be, that would be the best for everyone involved, not just for yourself.

 

Faith 

I think that’s really good. And, you know, the along with the discernment to is that piece of when something isn’t working, that we really are might be on to something. And that especially in in a work relationship, going back to the discernment with relationships, which is in the workplace, if something isn’t working, what needs to happen? Does it come from you? Does it come from a good conversation? Does it come from an intervention? See all this is discernment? What needs to happen to make things work and flow better for you? And for those around you? That’s a good path to take. Is that what needs to happen here? If the workload is you feel like it’s not fair, and you’re getting so much extra work and your partner sitting next to you is getting less? What is that about? And does that need to be dealt with and does that need to be discussed in a meeting? It’s like, don’t be afraid to trust that sometimes if you’re observing something that is consistently there, to trust it and to step in, so that it can be better for you, as well as for others.

 

Lois 

And this path we’re talking about could be a path out, yes, it could be a different path through that weaves through like a river. I mean, that’s why we’re talking about what is the best path? Because sometimes just like you said, in relationships, the path might be, I need to do something else Exactly. Or it might be I need to shift my thinking about how these people are doing their jobs, whether they are or not, so that I can keep doing my best, right? Because maybe the path is to just focus on yourself. Yeah. So that’s the idea of, the more research you do, starting with your instinct, looking at the information, deciding what’s fact and assumption, you now have the tools to choose that path where you’ll feel a lot more comfortable. And it just gives you that decision making ability that comes through this discernment.

 

Faith 

And if you’re in need of a job and you take a job quickly, you may do it for a while and then all at once. Find yourself in the tension of that job. And if you’re a creative and you’re in an administrative more type of job, it’s not going to work. And so we You took the job because you can do it. But it doesn’t mean that it is actually enhancing your life. So while you have that job, discern the fact I do not have to stay here, I need to discern what’s going on, and what is it that I need. And then you begin to look for another position, maybe within the company, or a completely different job, because now you know yourself more. So discernment is listening again to yourself in the situation. And to not just say, why does have to do this, know what’s going on. It’s a moment in time to reflect and to understand yourself better.

 

Lois 

And the beauty of this is hold on to everything you do, make the changes, take the job, and then know that it might change again, because nothing stays the same. And I think sometimes we think we go through this entire process. And this is the way it must be and like you said, you take a job and go oh, not my skill set, which I thought was you thought you did all the legs. work and you did, by the way, and at the time it looked good. But now you realize, oh, that may need to shift again. So you know what, you just start the process over again. And I think the beauty of having discernment is to realize that we do this again, and again. And again. It’s not one and done.

 

Faith 

Never one and done. If you think there’s a one and done, you’re fooling yourself, because it is always about transformation, morphing and becoming more and that’s just life.

 

Lois 

And as you use these practices, you’re going to be surprised at the confidence muscle, you’re building in yourself, because you’ve gone with an idea that you may have had, but because you tested it all the way through before you went through this next step, you have confidence that you know how to discern what is in your best interest and what is in the best interest of your colleagues.

 

Faith 

Isn’t that so good? Yes, yes. And, and despite holding that lightly, that truth emerges. within us and within the company and within whatever it is that you’re creating and doing. So we’re always looking for that truth, that nugget of truth that’s good for you, and good for those around you.

 

Lois 

Let’s all remember that in everything we do, sometimes we get so gung ho. And it’s so tight, that even if then something is in there to shake it up a little bit. We don’t want to because we think we have to go with that. So the more we can come to a conclusion and know that it, it too, could change. that frees us a little bit.

 

Faith 

Yes. And it’s just it’s makes the journey interesting. So choosing to follow your intuition and a decision at your workplace involves trust, observation, research, and then action.

 

Lois 

Using an integrated approach combines this intuition and experience and often leads to the result that everyone is more ready to adopt.

 

Faith 

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Lois 

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Faith 

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Lois 

No matter what you face in relationships, your body, spirituality or your craft.

 

Faith 

We are here to assure you, there is always more to life.

 

Lois 

We’ll be back next week.