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Lois 

Welcome to the podcast More to Life with Faith and Lois.

 

Faith 

I’m Faith.

 

Lois 

And I’m Lois.

 

Faith 

Our podcast explores the things you face in life that inspire and daunt you.

 

Lois 

Greetings to you Faith and good morning.

 

Faith 

Good morning to you. It’s a great day actually in my hummingbirds came back and I’m so excited. So that’s the first sign of big time spring for me. And so it’s a good day.

 

Lois 

Oh, hummingbirds back on their way to wherever but that’s just fabulous. Oh, I’m so excited for you. I can’t wait till I can come and actually see them in person myself.

 

Faith 

I know me too.

 

Lois 

That’ll be a lot of fun. So yet another week of living a little differently as a result of Coronavirus. And one more week to realize there is suffering and hope that comes with this very different season. All of our lives and as you’ve probably heard on mortal life with faith and Lewis we are focusing right now on the different things. The little bits and pieces we are learning we are growing from we’re hurting from during this COVID-19 season. And if you’d like to hear any of our podcasts, please check them out. They’re on our website www.moretolifewithfaithandlois.com. They’re also on every single podcast platform and hopefully you are subscribed on your favorite one. You can also sign up for our weekly newsletter from our website, so that we will send our podcasts to you and your email every Tuesday morning. Please share our podcasts if you hear something that’s valuable and we would love to hear from you as to how this is fitting in with your life. And Thursday, by the way, we’re going to be on video again faith where we’ll be every week right now we have been doing videos or live connections with how COVID-19 is impacting your life.

 

Faith 

And these have been really interesting on both for us and our listeners, because we’re dealing with it currently, like what’s happening this week. And we begin to just step into a conversation about how the different things are impacting us and how to live more positively, as we move through this crisis together.

 

Lois 

So that is what we are doing. We’re trying to stay as fresh as possible for you during this time, because it’s been changing everyday for us, and we are sure it’s probably doing the same for you. So today, we’re asking the question, what COVID-19 habits will become part of your life because faith and I have experienced a lot of new things that we’ve had to shift. And I know there are plenty of things that we don’t want to see anymore of when everything is opened back up. But there might be a few things that we are doing that we didn’t expect to be doing at this level that we will continue with. So we thought we would go back and forth and exchange some of the things that have changed up in our own lives, and a couple of other things, too, but Faith, let’s start, what is first up for you in terms of a habit?

 

Faith 

Well, one of the things that I’ve adapted to, I did not necessarily use Zoom on anything for any reason whatsoever. But I had to learn to use it pretty quickly, to make a connection with clients and with friends and family, and it wasn’t that difficult. And it’s amazing how many things we put off to the thing is, like, take the time to learn to do it. And the reality is, is that this has been forcing me to do some things that I haven’t done before. And Zoom is one of them. And the wonderful thing is, is that it’s kept me connected to my friends, to my family, that are across the country, even across the world for that matter. And I like it and I’m going to adhere to it. It’s something that I can see myself actually living without now I will use it again, long after the virus issue is done and we’re making social connections again. It’s a great tool that I want to put into my life.

 

Lois 

You know, so funny because when we think of habits we go initially for that 21 day marker, like, Can you do something for three weeks? And if you can do it for that there’s a good chance that you can implement this as part of your life. And we’re now into, we’re starting week five for most of us with shelter in place. So we’ve started to do things differently. And one of the things that I noticed, particularly for me, is my routine. And while I’ve always been someone who likes routine, and I encourage routine, and you’ve probably heard me say that because it’s just part of my life, I have noticed that I had to change my routine, and I had to make it flex to the new lifestyle we have here and that includes everything in our household how because we have so many more people in the who are working from home? Well, not so many. But there’s three of us in here. So we have to split up. We know when we’re all on zoom separately, we’re no one, we’re doing certain meetings that have to be quiet. And we’ve had this routine where we have calendars where we notate things, and I never was so particular, I would just go, Well, I’ll get that done, or they’ll have this task. And now I’ve realized that when I really block it out, I take it really seriously. And so I think for me, one of the new habits from COVID-19 that I want to take with me moving forward is how important it is for me to actually put things down. That means something like a phone call with a family member, or a zoom with a family member or a friend or a gathering a meeting of somebody to drop something off where we can’t speak but we can meet. And I never thought that important enough to add into my life and I realized that’s part of my routine that I want to keep up so I really appreciate that I’ve looked more seriously at my exercise, food-meal preparation, hanging out with friends doing a couple of things like that, that I now created as part of a daily effort for me that might change and might flex, but it is okay to say, this is my life and this is what it looks like. So for me, I hope to carry this new style of routine even if it flexes and changes beyond COVID-19.

 

Faith 

That’s great, more fluid, being more fluid and more flexible in the process of things that yes brings another reality to life to live. One thing I’ve learned is it’s an again a technological thing. But I’ve seen all their ads on TV for you know, just clicking your phone and you can do positive checkout. No. I will do it the old fashioned way, because I like going to the bank. But I’m not able to go to the bank and I figured I need to learn to do this. So I learned to do it and it was easy when I just took the time to focus in. And now I’m doing deposit my iPhone, and so nice. It’s so now it’s like, I’m probably gonna be doing this one, the rest of the time it’s like any check that I get, I’m not going to go to the bank and deposit it that way. So that’s something that was kind of abstract for me. So I’m finding a lot of abstract things are becoming more of a reality because I’ve had to make my life work differently. And I think these are things that are going to be woven into all of our lives into doing things somewhat differently from here on out, because we’ve learned how to do it.

 

Lois 

That is so cool, you learn how to do it, and it sounds like it’ll make your life easier as well. And you just hadn’t gotten around to it because of whatever reason at the time, it didn’t it didn’t seem as important for you to do it, then.

 

Faith 

Exactly, exactly. Now it is. And it is it does make my life easier.

 

Lois 

That is so cool. One of the areas that I’ve really discovered for me that has changed is something I never thought I had time for. And I think maybe more than anything that’s shaping my life and the habits that I’m creating is I’m realizing, I actually have the time for these things. I didn’t think I had the time. And it was because I never did it. So when I didn’t do it and put it out there I went, Oh, no, no, I don’t have the time for that. There’s no way I could do that. And what I’m talking about for me is planting an outdoor garden from seed. I’ve never done that because I looked at it and went, Oh my word people who do that must be Master Gardeners. They must really know what they’re doing. I don’t I figured it out. I mean, I’ve always bought the seedlings, you know, and occasionally I’d throw i’d scatter a few like wildflower seeds out there and call it done. This year I made a decision to actually go purchase seeds. To get the little greats now I can use a grip cartons By the way, and to have special soil that goes in there and to plant these little seeds and you wouldn’t believe going into Week Five of what I’m calling my Coronavirus Garden, I don’t really know where I’m going to put all these darn plants when I’m all said and done because I have so many and they all grew. And just for the record, it’s a fraction of the cost. I’m not joking or exaggerating when I say it’s one 10th of the cost of the entire project, it is so substantially or I should it cost me 10 times more to do it the old way as it does right now by doing the seeds. And I also had a few mistakes where I bought all these seeds and I thought great and then I looked at some of them and some of them said you must only plant outdoors. So I have some you know all of my squashes which have to wait until until it gets nice enough. So I have a whole batch of seeds I haven’t even that’s why I know my garden will be huge. But everything that I planted inside it actually worked and you know Aside from the initial planting and setting it down, all I’ve had to do is water it and made sure it had enough sunlight kind of like the rest of the plants in my house, which I love. So, faith for me, this is a habit that is going to save me so much money and brought me so much joy in a time where I was looking at suffering and destruction and loss around me, this has been green and life giving and nurturing and people who walk in and see it in the, you know, the dining room area, although I don’t have very many people walking in, which is probably why I did videos early on, I want to show somebody so but now I just have these things that are growing, and it’s so exciting. So that’s something that I didn’t think I had the time for. And I realized it doesn’t take that much time. Once I’m doing it.

 

Faith 

That’s so fun. Your projects are so creative, and they’re life giving. And I think that’s part of the beauty of the plants or anything is that you’re bringing all this life into fruition. You’re seeing it from a seed into something beautiful, that’s going to become even more when you get it outside. So your little babies are going to be pampered for a while.

 

Lois 

Babies, Corona babies.

 

Faith 

That’s awesome. And one of the things that have been just delightful is that because our schedules have changed so much between David and myself at dinnertime, when we don’t necessarily have a client right afterwards, and so we’re having these longer after dinner talks just been so sweet and tender, and kind of enjoyable to just not just about the day events, but deeper talks about what’s happening and how we view things and what’s also going on inside of us. And so this become a time for us that I want to see carry on. forward into continuing that ongoing because we get treasured moments that we’re having. It’s a time where it is set apart in a very unique way. And looking at how can I schedule in the future on how can David schedule in the future not to just eat and then oh, I have a client or I need to get this done that we schedule it a little different and from here on out, because I don’t want to miss that. That’s a really, really nice thing that we’ve found. So I think those are not only just at dinner time, but wherever you find it on. I think that’s something we all need to what are the treasured moments that we don’t want to let slip away, and whatever those are for any of us out there. Um, hold on to those and don’t let pine and the normal team steal those from you.

 

Lois 

That is such a sweet relationship boost that you’re describing right now. That is happening for for many people. I know it’s challenging for some, but you have found a way to turn that into something that that is providing a lot of growth and energy and joy for the two of you.

 

Faith 

And I think it’s up for all of us for the city, your children, or your spouse or your friends. Or maybe it’s if you’re a single, you make a phone call at certain times of the day, don’t lose those times. Those are very important for the life of our soul. And don’t let our souls dry up again. Let’s keep them fresh. I love that. I love that.

 

Lois 

For me, the other thing I want to join in, which is something you mentioned before, and it’s from, it’s realizing how much I actually need the connection with my friends and family, which I’ve been doing as you are with Zoom or with FaceTime or with phone calls are with emails or with text messages, or with you know, eating while separated, you know, but doing it together to feel like we have a meal. I am a very independent person. And I think I can probably speak to a lot of you out there that think exactly the same way. I can do this by myself, I’m going to make it through, I can help others, I can do this. I’m realizing how much I covet and need that relationship back. And I’m getting that back in these conversations with people. And so that’s been so beautiful for me to feel this enriching that’s starting to happen. It’s happening initially with my husband and with my one of my sons who’s in the house a lot. So we’re able to connect a lot, but I’m also finding it with the conversations I’m having with the connections, and I realized how much I longed for that and how I had shortchanged myself, again, I don’t have time for that. I’ve got to do this. I’ll pick up on this when I think about it, but to actually have that Like you just said faith, to schedule it to think about it more seriously that these relational pieces have meant so much because we’re going through so much of the same stuff. And so whenever I feel low or weak or excited or want to share, I mean, it’s both levels that I’m able to do this connection point with, but I am independently realizing how much I need to be more communal. Like, you know, people have talked about who’s in your Zoom core and not zoom, but who’s in your Coronavirus, quarantine, who’s in your quarantine community. And I’ve realized that I have a bigger quarantine community than I than I ever thought possible. And I think that is really special. And it’s not that it’s the numbers of people but maybe it’s the numbers of interactions that I’m having that are starting to fill more of a void that I didn’t even know was there until this happened. And even speaking about it, it kind of gets me emotional because I realized that is a it’s a it’s healing. healing, whatever is going on for all of us. I’ve had I’ve had time to sit and go, I need this. I want to connect I versus I’m okay. You I know you have your life I’ve got my life. I’m saying, Oh, no, no, I Yes, that would be good. That would be great to talk with you today. So it’s been kind of fun.

 

Faith 

Absolutely. I mean, those relationships bring us into more self awareness about ourselves, and about what has been lacking or where there’s been some weak areas in our life. And that discovery is beautiful, because it adds a dimension to your life of where you can process and see and understand things more clearly than in relationships with them for whatever reason with a variety of people. We all need that. And that’s one that I also was going to be on my list as well because that, that I actually need other people. I’m so self sufficient as well. But my daughter is helping get groceries so I don’t get as much going out there. So every Friday she’ll say, Mom, what do you need? I’m going to grocery store and and so I let her for two weeks and then this last Friday I went out and then she tattled on me to my older daughter and she said mom went to the store. But it’s but I recognize that if I can drop that, that level of staying safe. It’s okay to need somebody to help. It’s okay.

 

Lois 

Yeah, this has been a time to receive in a lot of ways that I think we because we get so busy, we don’t pause long enough to be able to even receive and some of us are really great at giving. And the lessons we’re learning through this is yes, and we can also receive and we’ve done a whole podcast on giving and receiving and how important is balance? And we both go Yeah, yeah, we got

 

Faith 

We’re still learning, it’s that learning curve.

 

Lois 

And I heard somebody say a beautiful thing today when when you’re really afraid if you have a fear of whatever it is that you’re thinking about as this Coronavirus era is still around us. We know we can see a light at the end of the tunnel, but we’re not there yet. So when you’re in that moment of fear,seek something out.And and what I mean by that is as faith and I try new things as we’re trying to learn about new things, when I put my attention on learning something new, my fear of that one issue begins to just slowly dissipate. It doesn’t totally go away. But because I’m trying to learn something new, so maybe it’s why I’ve been trying so many different things during this era, so that I can deal with my fear on one level by learning something new because it puts me right into the present moment and takes me out of whatever’s going on in my head. That might be terrorizing me.

 

Faith 

That’s so good. Yeah, it’s kind of a distraction. Right?

 

Lois 

Yeah. But a distraction that helps you learn something. So when you’re learning something, you actually put aside, you know, you kind of shift. It’s what happens in your brain, you’re able to make that shift. So awesome. So this week, we’ve been talking about what COVID habits will become part of your life. And so if we can think about it, and we’re not just always trying to paint a rosy picture on top of everything, we’re just looking at some of the changes that both Faith and I have made. And we’re saying, you know, some of these are actually going to come through, and it may have been things that we never even thought possible, or didn’t think necessary. And they’re now being woven into our lives. And it’s, it’s kind of cool. And if you do need to talk by the way, we also want to always let you know you can go to our website, www.moretolifewithfaithandlois.com. Faith is a registered psychotherapist, I’m a certified life coach. If there’s something you would like to share with us or talk to us about you are feel free please to reach out to us. We will both get back to you. When, when possible.

 

Faith 

Even today, think about using the time to evaluate the new habits you’re cultivating, and how they might shape you for the better.

 

Lois 

It’s impossible to know when society as we once knew it will reopen. Yet your perspective is something that you can control.

 

Faith 

You’re not alone. And we are here if you need to talk.

 

Lois 

And join us next week when we explore yet one more facet of how we are managing life in these very challenging times.

 

Faith 

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Lois 

No matter what you face in relationships, your body, spirituality or your craft.

 

Faith 

We are here to assure you, there is always more to life.

 

Lois 

We’ll be back next week.