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Lois                        

Welcome to the podcast, More to Life with Faith and Lois.

Faith                   

I’m Faith

Lois   

And I’m Lois.

Faith 

Our podcast explores life’s many transitions that inspire and daunt us.

Lois   

We are here the end of 2019.

Faith

We are and I can hardly believe it, but I am so excited.

Lois   

I am too. It’s been an amazing year, hasn’t it? Oh my goodness. Filled with so many transitions that any one of them that you might be able to imagine. And, and some of the highlights we did this year included a lot of those transitions we did.

Faith

There were so many things that we talked about and brought to light like relocation and death and job loss, right?

Lois   

And then new life and the false self and codependency. So we’ve dealt with a lot of issues and we are so appreciative of all of the interaction we’ve had with you surrounding those issues where transitions could have been really tough, maybe challenging and some of them were ones that you went through more smoothly.

Faith

And it made life very interesting.

Lois   

And everyone by the way, is on our website. So if you would like to at the end of this holiday season for you, jump in and binge or check them out one by one, starting with episode 54 all the way through today’s number 105 they all focus on transitions and we also have a weekly newsletter. If you’d like to get our podcast right in your email, go to our website www.moretolifewithfaithandlois.com. And you can sign up and we will send that podcast to you along with any late breaking news we have on More to Life with Faith and Lois. So we are ready for Episode 105 transition: The Impact of your Vision.

Faith

What a word to start with with the new year. Right? It’s perfect. And because it is the time where we become reflective and it’s time to stir the vision within abs so that we can claim a new direction in life.

Lois   

You know, we love words, Faith and I have done lots with words to speak with and that’s why this vision, you’re right, it just gives us something to look ahead to look forward to. And so we thought we also in this podcast are going to be sharing with you our vision for the upcoming year, which will be really fun. You know, there’s a really good differentiator between goals and vision. Cause I think sometimes I get a little trapped that they’re the same thing. And www.lifehacker.com has a great differentiator. And they say that goals are the how you achieved something like you exercise, you develop a business plan, spend less time at work and vision is the why.

Faith

Hmm. That makes such good sense because we need to have a why to relate to step in to see it come to fruition because the why is inspiration and inspiration makes something really creative happen.

Lois   

That is so cool. So, so faith, what is your vision for 2020?

Faith 

Oh my goodness. Whenever I think about an entire year, I can overwhelm myself because there’s a lot of things that it’s more like popcorn starts happening. But my, I think my main vision is to pace myself, to pace myself in such a way that I see the evidence of something becoming complete, becoming formed. Uh, something that takes root and that takes us sometimes slowing down and I have a very wise person in my life that is really, really encouraging me in an ever so nice way. Slow down, slow down because I tend to want to get it done. I’m a get it done type of person, so that’s probably a lot of what I’m going to be working on as my vision in all areas of my life. Not just one or two specifics, but I think I can incorporate slowing down in all areas of my life.

Lois   

Oh, that’s beautiful. Oh, hold you accountable to that. Oh dear. Just kidding. I’ll just watch. But mine is the fact that my vision doesn’t have to be so static and so fixed. I think I used to think that if I thought of a vision for the coming year or even for the this week, that that’s what it was going to be. And I’ve learned more than anything else that it really doesn’t matter. That that’s what I think the beauty of a vision is, that it’s not fixed and that it changes. It’s fluid, it moves and it sometimes grows with me. So I’ve become so much more connected to what’s happening right now that I can actually put down something I thought was a vision for the rest of this week because I need to deal with an area or a person or a circumstance that comes up. Because that needs to be my vision right now. It doesn’t mean I have no boundaries and that I don’t listen to myself, but it means that I’m not so I’m not holding so tight to one thing that I think has to happen and so I’ve loved that that gives me this perspective as I’m looking to the next year. That my vision can be open and it might move and change and it’s, it’s really kind of unfolding so that I don’t look at it as a fixed state of this is I’m going to show you this is what I want to vision, but it keeps opening and I feel like I’m kinder that way. I feel like I respond to people in a much more generous way because I’m not saying this is what I absolutely have to do and don’t get in my way.

Faith

Hmm. That’s excellent. You’re off to a good start.

Lois   

I’m Excited about where this is moving and you too, boy, between pacing and opening and expanding up, we’re going to have a lot in store for us this year. I’m really excited. So if you want to know why you’re doing what you do, have a vision and sometimes it takes almost closing your eyes or getting into a place in nature and seeing yourself. And what I mean is, you know, just think of yourself in this new place and maybe you can taste something or you can smell something or you can touch something. And it gives you a perspective of what it would look like or feel like to be in this different place.

Faith

That’s so true. It’s like using your five senses awakens a vision that sometimes has gone dormant inside of us. And so when we experience some of the other senses, it can stir and awaken and bring to life a vision that maybe you wouldn’t have thought of otherwise.

Lois   

You know, I’ve really learned about what it means to think differently about speaking to someone. So I actually imagine a conversation and not a negative one. You know, I used to sometimes ruminate about what could go wrong and have all the negativity instead. Now I think about, well, what could go right if I did it in this way? And to even just have that teeny tiny shift gives me a vision that there could be healing in a relationship because this is what it could look like. And to operate from that perspective is giving me a really new feel.

Faith

That’s really good. One of the, I think, greatest harms to our vision is that we can be so dismissive of it. It can pop up in the strangest places. Some of my most profound visions of something that Rose up within me came while I was driving or when I was just taking a walk or I was on a treadmill and that there’s this kind of distraction of something that you’re doing that’s kinda wrote that you know what to do and then it gives space for something to rise up that we normally wouldn’t give space to. But then when it comes up, we go, Oh, I couldn’t do that. That’s not gonna work. That will never happen. Oh, that’s a nice idea. And then it gets shelved. And I think that’s where the biggest damage to our visions happen is probably in that first few minutes to an hour or two a day and pretty soon it’s put aside.

Lois   

So how do you bring that back? For me, I kind of tried to tell myself I want to believe in myself. Well, if you thought that Lois, there’s a really good possibility that could happen. How do you do that when you see something so that you take hold of it instead of dismissing it?

Faith

Well, I used to dismiss them all a long time ago? Interesting. And now I accept them all. And because each one of them holds something of value, whether it comes to exactly the way I see it or whether it is insight and inspiration to where it’s taking me, I don’t want to lose it. I don’t want to waste it. So the first thing I do is write it down. I write down what I’ve seen, what I’ve heard, what I have experienced, uh, what excite, excited me about it. Because there is a great excitement that comes with a vision. Like, Oh my goodness, this would be amazing. You know, that usually comes and so it’s important to understand myself, what am I experiencing in it? Because it may not be the vision. It may be what is exciting me, what is igniting my jets? Maybe that’s what the vision is meant to do. So we call it unpacking it. You have to unpack that vision. What is it saying? What is it? What does it meant to express within me? And then follow it.

Lois   

You know, that takes the fear out of it. Because I think many people, when they hear the word vision, they get afraid. But the idea is that this is helping you set the table for what’s coming up next. You know, a friend of mine once said, and we were talking and she said, you know, Lois, I’m getting a download. And I went, where? Where are you? Where are you getting a download from? And she said, well, I’m, you know, I’m receiving some information and it scared me – those first words. And then I realized what’s there to be scared about. It was just an insight she had and she was using new language because she’s far younger than me. So for her, her vision was getting a download. So whatever that looks like to you, where you’re getting information because you’ve paused long enough that you’re not operating out of the brain that has to get something done right this minute, you’re actually opening yourself up. So the other side of your brain that says, Oh, hello, I’m here too, and I have something to share can actually speak into what you’re doing.

Faith

Exactly. And then, and then here’s the, one of the best little gifts that you can give yourself is, I’ve used this expression and other podcasts before, but if money were not the object, how would this vision you just had come to fruition? Because it’s usually money and that usually cuts it down. I don’t have the money, I don’t have the funding. This could never happen. Take that away and just let it unfold. But if I had it, what would I do? Right?

Lois   

Look at those obstacles as potentials for the next step instead of blocking you. Because we’ve also talked about how obstacles sometimes give us the best new turns in our entire lives that we wouldn’t have had if we hadn’t been stopped somewhere along the way. Just so correct. So see those as gifts to, you know, we have so much that we want to share with you about determining your vision, but we also want to let you know that we have some great news from our sponsor, A Stepping Stone. So if you’re looking for a path to a healthy mind, we want to let you know about this amazing treatment program.

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Lois   

You can call them at 303-942-0512 or go online to www.steppingstonenow.com. So we are on Episode 105 Transition: The impact of your vision. And one of the most powerful questions you can ask when determining your vision is what do you want? And you know, when you ask that to somebody, they kind of step back and like, well no, I need to do this and I must do this. But no. Well, what do you want? Because when you start looking at your core as to what is a value and of meaning and where you want to go from here in terms of your purpose, you can really make some exciting new discoveries for yourself.

Faith

It’s one of the most important questions we need to ask, but we avoid because there’s a lot of baggage that comes with that question. Selfishness. You should think of others first and not yourself. So asking what you want. Um, a lot of times we’d grow up with, uh, that conditioned response of you should come last. And that’s not necessarily true with this. When you’re talking about your vision and what you want to experience, you have to know what it is that you want because you’re the only one who knows that.

Lois   

Yes. And one of the places that I finally got the big aha on this was I would always tell people what I didn’t want. No, I don’t want this and don’t do that and I don’t want this. And someone finally said, okay Lois, I get it. I hear what you don’t want. What do you want? And it was such a refreshing question. Oh really? I can actually explore that. To your point, when you’re not used to saying those kinds of things, you can view it in a different way, but don’t look at it as selfish. Do it as you know what’s springing up inside you. That’s not selfish. That’s what’s happening in your life.

Faith

Yeah. And be creative. That’s a big piece is to consider the ideas that you never thought were possible. That opens up the vision. It’s like it, it just opens up the lid and lets the light into it so that it can expand and begin to be nurtured and to begin to flourish. But that’s oftentimes where we stop it is that we put the lid on it too quickly.

Lois   

Well, and you said before, I love what you said about visions, you used to dismiss them and now you accept them all. So what if you were able to kind of focus on all those things that came at you? Like it’s a gift, it’s something positive, and then decide where they might fit into your life. What a different perspective than saying, Oh no, no, no, keep that away. That’s too good for me.

Faith

I know it would change. It would change everything. I mean at least you’d have a better attitude.

Lois   

Yes, yes. Even if you choose not to do those really good things to at least observe them and take, you know, take stock of what they might mean. And you know, we have a couple of questions for you that might help you jumpstart the process. If you’re kind of stuck in like, well, how do I deal with a vision? I don’t know how to, I don’t know where to go.

Faith

Well, as soon as you have one, like I said, jot down some notes about it. It just get it down on paper. Whether you ever go back to it again. There is something about writing it down, writing down. At least the molecules of that vision helps for it to form in however it wants to form in your life and that’s anything about your goals, your dreams, your hopes, your visions, your people. We will always encourage you write them down because that’s where they take hold.

Lois   

And then when will you be brave enough to speak them out loud? Because that’s a scary one. I find that if I’m really serious about something I want to do, I know I’m, you know, when I’m getting the courage up to share with Faith or with another good friend or with my husband, something that I really want to do, then I’m actually taking those notes and saying, Oh, I actually believe this. I really believe this could happen. So I’m saying it out loud and that puts a lot more of me into that statement because now what am I going to do with that?

Faith

It’s out there and you build on it being out there and the more you speak it, the more confident you become about it.

Lois   

You know? It’s so true that when we decide we really want something, how we jump into it is how it’s going to happen or not. And if, if we don’t pursue something, don’t worry, it will never happen. That’s just kind of a given. Granted, every now and then something drops down from the sky to you, you know, twice in your life. But I mean for the most part, what you’re going to have in life comes because you are actually looking and pursuing. And that’s an exciting place to be to actually tell yourself, wow, if I really pursue this, this might actually become a vision for me.

Faith

And that can be scary, which is another reason that can be another turning point of where we stop it. And that’s really important to remember when you have a vision and if you are pursuing it and you’re wanting it to unfold, you’re going to come to many crossroads in that vision as it begins to evolve. And at each one of those crossroads, it’s another chance for you to say, I’m done. And it takes courage to say I’ll continue. But if you do, oftentimes that vision comes to life.

Lois   

And that’s where the vision can be shifting. You know, you had an idea of what it was going to look like and as faith just mentioned, you hit a crossroad and then what do you do? Oh, I need to actually look at it from this perspective and just turn ever so slightly. And something else might come in. And there is fear in that because we sometimes consider that a block when instead it’s a new Avenue that suddenly that was the block and everything kind of rushes through. I really love that, that you’re going to face this as you come up with a vision and that’s okay. That’s part of the idea of it not being solid and set that it still can be explored.

Faith

And another really important thing is to know does it really fit you, your talents, your gifts, your abilities, who you are. If you may have a vision, like you know, I really want to be a millionaire and live on fifth Avenue or something, but you make $30,000 a year. So how is that going to happen? And don’t ignore the vision, but look at it and see, okay, what would I need to do to get there if that’s really my vision?

Lois   

Exactly. And yeah, don’t throw it out. But look at those things. And you know, some of the questions you can really ask yourself as you’re trying to decide is this vision for me is what really matters to you in your life? Not what matters to your brother or do matters to somebody else or colleague, but what matters to you? Those are the kinds of things that are so important to ask. And sometimes we just don’t pause long enough to ask ourselves what do we want and what matters to us?

Faith 

Absolutely. The values of what we hold dear need to be in the vision or it’s not your vision, it’s somebody else’s or it’s an idea or it’s a pie in the sky dream and the, I think there’s a lot of discernment that comes with vision that you have to break it down and go, how does this really apply to me as a whole person?

Lois   

Yeah. And what do you want more of in your life? Sometimes we take things away, but what is there that you want added to your life as you look ahead? We’ve just, we’re winding down the year 2019 and you’re looking ahead to the new year for a vision. What do you want more of in your life and how can you go about getting that?

Faith

And that is everywhere. If you want more joy, if you want more hope, if you want more patients, those are things that you can begin to claim and take ownership of and add them to your life and say, you know what? I want to be a more kind person this year. I want to develop kindness. I want to develop being a good listener. You know, if that, if people have said, you’re not listening, well maybe that’s where you start. Start with the things that enhance your life because that will also add to the direction of your visions, both currently and those that are yet to come.

Lois   

You know, and some of our earlier podcasts, we use the word when you walk away from a conversation, there’s kind of like a fragrance. There’s a tail that something that you leave behind. So what do you want people to think when you walk out of the room and the next step is, you know, what’s the legacy, which is what you’ve spoken to at length Faith, , beautifully about what do you want people to say about you in your life as a kind of a capsule? Now it’s not that we’re all writing our obituaries every single day of life, but it’s the idea of what am I leaving behind? And that has to do with your vision. Have you had a view of what your life is like and you’ve offered that kindness and generosity and patience to the people you’re around or are you going to be remembered for some things that you don’t want to be remembered for? And if that’s the case, like not listening, then maybe that’s something to consider for the coming year.

Faith

I so agree with that.

Lois   

Our vision for more to life with faith, Lois is also changing for the new year. And part of why we chose this topic for our podcast was to look at the fact that we’re going to be changing around how we are bringing our podcast to you. So this is our final one that we’re doing on the impact and the impact of your vision and the transitions that you faced in all of 2019. So beginning next week we’ve decided that we’re going to have one theme for every month. So for January we have chosen the theme of what your outlook would be like. The whole idea is we’re going to break that theme down into four areas, which will be one for every week of our podcast that month. So with that theme in mind, we’re going to look at four areas, Faith.

Faith

Your body, your spirituality, your relationships, and your craft.

Lois   

Because they all speak into some big themes that might be making a mark.

Faith

They certainly do because we are a whole person and sometimes we don’t see how everything is integrated into the whole of who you are. And so what we want to address is how some of these topics in life impact all areas of our life.

Lois   

So we’re going to be dipping into relationships and your body and spirituality and your craft, just like Faith mentioned. And we’re going to apply these themes every single week and we’re really excited.

Faith

Clearing the way to find your vision opens the door to possibilities you might have never imagined.

Lois   

And as you discover what really matters and what you value and how to bring joy into your life, your vision will take shape.

Faith  

We’d love it if you would share this podcast with a friend.

Lois   

And join us next week for our first theme. What’s your Outlook on Life?

Faith

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Lois   

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Faith

As you transition through all sorts of change, we want you to know there is more to life.

Lois   

We’ll be back next week.