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Lois                        

Welcome to the podcast, More to Life with Faith and Lois.

Faith                   

I’m Faith

Lois                          

And I’m Lois.

Faith                      

Our podcast explores life’s many transitions that inspire and daunt us.

Lois                       

Faith, it is wonderful to be with you.

Faith

It’s so good, and we’re right into summer.

Lois                         

Oh Man, are we in the summer? This has been a fun summer to expand and reach with our podcast and we talked about sexuality last week. And I’m not going to tell you about what I did in one level, but I will tell you that it reminded me of a lot of touch and I had a gift certificate for a massage that had been sitting on my desk for weeks. I took it and I used it and it just, it was nice.

Faith                    

Yeah. Hey, see you treated yourself.

Lois                        

It was really, really nice to connect with my body that way as we were talking about body image and loving yourself and that was really, really cool. So we would love it if you would share this podcast. After you listen or even in the middle, you can forward this to somebody and let other people know what you’re experiencing and we would love you to ask us anything. By the way, if you’re thinking about something and you hear a podcast and go, what were they meaning, please send us an email or get on our social media and ask us those questions. We would love to respond to you.

Faith                     

And if you have a unique transition in life, we’d love to hear about it.

Lois                       

Oh, would we ever, and sign up for our newsletter, which we send out every week and it’s on our website www.moretolifewithfaithandlois.com. We are in summer as Faith just mentioned and we’re enjoying it and as many of us consider planning some sort of break from the routine, we thought this would be a great time for a podcast, Episode 80 Transition, The Impact of Vacation.

Faith                     

When are we going?

Lois                       

Well by now we might’ve already gone, but we are planning one. Even Faith and I are planning a vacation together. It’s important to get away from our daily experience and that’s really what we want to focus on today. When we say vacation, it would be great if we could just all go to, I don’t know, The Bahamas or Europe or wherever you want to go. South America. Sometimes you can, sometimes we can’t and there may be a variety of reasons, so we’re not necessarily saying you’ve got to do the whole enchilada right now. If you can blessings to you, but it might just be a way you can change things up enough. Yes. That the vacation actually sets place in your head, your mind.

Faith                   

That’s the difference is making it different.

Lois                       

Yes, because our routines are great, but in order to get reenergized in our routines, one of the best ways to do it is to step away from.

Faith                    

That’s right. That’s refueling.

Lois                      

That’s it. It’s so exciting for your mind and your spirit and your emotions. So you know Faith, when you think of vacations or vacation, what comes up for you?

Faith                   

Well. And it’s unique because you know when you have a partner, I have my husband, how we view things are a little bit different. But we’ve learned to really find that place of where we can find that place to kind of that awe moment where we can just go, this is nice. And so we take turns on what inspires us because that’s a lot of what vacations are about, what ignites inspiration and peace to go to. Sometimes it’s the ocean, sometimes it’s the mountains, sometimes it’s a hike, sometimes it’s a walk. But we need to find those things that what does it for us? And then enter into that place.

Lois                      

In our household we have a lot of moving parts as most households do. But we also have animals. So we have four of them. Now we’re down from five, but we have four, so two dogs and two cats. So for us to get away, because we have so many animals, we need to find somebody to take care of them. But we also want to go someplace where we don’t have to do our daily walks and daily feedings for the animals. So we find that if we can get a couple of times a year where we get a long weekend or something extended like that, it can give us such a break from just that 5:45am wake up from the dog’s scratching on the door who are ready to go out for their morning constitutional. And it makes such a difference. So it can be 90 minutes away, it can be 2000 miles away. But it changes it up enough that when we return, I’m so glad to be back with my animals. It doesn’t bother me. And then I embraced the routine again until I need a break.

Faith                   

There you go. There you go. It doesn’t have to be like this huge vacation. It is just change.

Lois                        

So in the next 20 or so minutes, we really want to explore some really good ideas on how to get the most out of your vacation. We’ve done a little research and we’ve actually found some experts who travel for a living and others who’ve just made some really great suggestions, like, you know, Faith in myself who’d like to get away when we can. And we know the importance of it. So the first thing we can actually share for you that you can find with research is that vacations are really good for your health.

Faith                    

Oh, are they ever. That whole renewal thing being recharged, getting a different perspective. It’s where inspiration gets awakened again. If you’re in your routine all the time, your focus becomes the routine, not necessarily inspiration, but you break that routine and then new things began to stir within us. So that is really good for your health and bringing your blood pressure down and, and enjoying different kinds of food.

Lois                      

Yes, and relieving stress. I find for myself, mainly because of the obligations you have in your home setting that even if you go away a little place and don’t have that same, I don’t have to put the dishes in the dishwasher tonight, you know? Well maybe if I’m at an Airbnb, I’ve got to put them there. But you know what I’m saying? That’s different when it’s an Airbnb. But I mean it’s the idea of being able to reduce my stress because I have a different surrounding and I don’t have that same level of things that don’t give me a break when I’m at home it seems like I can’t move myself if somebody calls and has to talk to you right at that moment. When you’re on vacation you literally disconnect. Even if it’s just for a few days.

Faith                    

That is a few lay your phone down and that’s so important. Right, but that’s what vacation is for or a break is for. Even if it’s a 90 minute break, like you said, it is about taking and leaving what your norm is behind to just get a refocus.

Lois                      

One of the things I find that when I get a vacation, especially if I am able to take a whole week, that by day three any chronic stress that I’ve been incurring that has basically affected my memory starts to change and I start, it’s like the synapses are connecting in such a different way and I remember things and maybe it’s because I don’t have anything else weighing on me. So I can notice a tree that’s blowing – the leaves. I can remember what the tree is called. I can’t remember the names of flowers, you know how when you get so busy and you’re under chronic stress, you’re grabbing for certain words that you don’t recall. But when you have that chance to have a vacation, it actually helps improve your memory. It’s wild.

Faith                 

I know. Well, and we were meant to live that way, but everything has changed to where the pace is faster, the demands are greater. And so that is a perfect example of how our brains are not functioning at the level that they were meant to function. We were meant to take breaks, we were meant to take breaks during our day and we don’t do that. So that’s why it’s so critical and so vital that we give ourselves that. And the other thing you mentioned too is that it’s on the third day. So true. It takes about two days to let down. So add that to your vacation time. Yes. Because your vacation doesn’t really start until that third day.

Lois                       

I know. And so sometimes when we only do the long weekends, we find that we’re like, gasping for air, you know, you’re not getting that deep breath. You know how when you still have to stop and pause. So anyway, just something to think about. If you can do at least one extended one. You know the other thing it really helps with when you’re looking for your health is it improves your sex life. Hint to Episode 79 last week, The Impact of Sexuality, but it really does. Once you get this day three, you’re finally like, your inhibitions might let down a little bit. You might be in a safe place where you can just not feel the pressures of having to get back to something. g It’s just beautiful to have that kind of intimacy that you can gain on a vacation.

Faith                

And you’re going to get deeper sleep. Probably more sleep because you’re finally have left down. You can catch your breath a little bit and it’s going to keep you young. I mean, come on, let’s go and have some fun because that’s what the vacations about. It’s about relaxing and join, but then doing some things that you might otherwise not have normally done.

Lois                        

So when you think of vacation just as an escape, remember that it’s actually good for your health. So this is one thing you can, you know, if you’re, if you’re trying to convince somebody to go on a vacation – just show them these things. Okay. So the other thing is that planning actually boost happiness. I’m not the best planner in the whole world, but I know when I start thinking of a vacation more than a few days beforehand, I then have this anticipatory joy of saying, oh, we can try this, we can look at this, you know, get a guidebook to know where you’re going. And it suddenly you get immersed in something that you didn’t even realize, oh, I get to do this.

Faith                  

That is so true. Because you get excited and there’s endorphins that start pumping into your body like, oh, that I could do this or I could do that. And the idea of anticipation is part of your vacation.

Lois                       

And then it extends it. So if you plan something a few months out and it’s about five days that you’re going to go away and you’re really excited, but you have this anticipation before, it makes it really sweet and large and something to look forward to. You know, I don’t know if you mark days down for yourself or how you do it, but I love that series of anticipation. Now I love surprises too where you just go, but then you don’t have that buildup.

Faith                

Right. I know, I know. It’s like Christmas. Something’s coming, something’s coming. You know, that’s that fun holiday that you anticipate, um, that big event and there’s so much joy in planning and imagining what can be.

Lois                     

It’ll add weeks to your vacation if you can’t take a week, several weeks long vacation. Many of you have probably watched or read some of Rick Steve’s book, but he is this unbelievable guy. He hosts the series Rick Steves Europe and he’s been writing travel guide books for decades. He has a few really good suggestions that we wanted to include here. And one of them, which you seem to think about it all the time, but it’s the idea of traveling light and he has a, an interesting reason for it. So that you can get from place to place as fast as possible. Or if you’re on a tour bus and you have to add all these connections to your trips, the lighter you travel, the less you have the possibility that you could lose some of your things. And then he had this great line that I loved, which is – no one ever comes back from a vacation and says, next time I’ll pack a heavier bag.

Faith                    

Or carry three more.

Lois                       

And I love that. What do I say? Every time I come back, you know, I could have taken less. I really could have, I could have washed that out and I could’ve just done that. So I may sound silly, but it eases the vacation side you have because you’re not focused on all the stuff you have in your bag.

Faith                   

That is so true. And we don’t need half the things that we bring. We were so afraid we’ll have the wrong shoes or the wrong whatever. It’s like, who cares? You’re on vacation.

Lois                        

I love that. So I know that it seems like one of those more obvious things, but I loved when he, you know, I’m never going to want to pack a heavier bag. The other he suggested is to be a cultural chameleon and what he means by this is if you’re going to go, especially if it’s a foreign country or if it’s just a different state, appreciate and immerse yourself in what’s going on in your location.

Faith                 

That is so important. We just did this on a weekend that David and I took and we went up into the mountains to us, wonderful town, Salida Colorado, and we heard about this restaurant, local restaurant that’s down by the Arkansas River. And we were so fortunate we got a table that was right on the river rushing by us. And the experience was just overwhelming. It’s probably the highlight of our three day vacation was that we got to sit there and watch us roaring river at its peak and peaking still probably, but oh it this, I don’t know. It was energizing and we just sat there for so long, eating a great meal, having wonderful drinks and watching this river and wow, it just changed everything.

Lois                       

Oh, I love watching. If you could only see what faith just look like describing that because that’s so true. You became open minded in a sense. Right, because I think sometimes if we go and we only going to take our way of thinking to the vacation, then we don’t get to, you know, receive what the location has to offer us.

Faith                 

I know and that’s what it’s all about.

Lois                        

There you go. I just love it.

Faith                   

It’s the experience. Vacations breaks are meant about the experience. Don’t miss that. Don’t get so involved in what you need to do next. Otherwise you get into a routine of vacation and then you’re doing a routine. Now have an itinerary that can be enjoyable, but don’t let it control you.

Lois                          

That is such good advice because if you just take your head, put it in a new place, then you’re with your head again. That’s not where you want to be, so change it up. Now there are some routines that I know everybody has to have coffee a certain way or tea. I got that, but try to mix it up enough so that you get to experience what the location has to teach you. Let it also be a part of that. I love to take pictures every place I go, but this reminder to be in the moment is so true. You just mentioned the phone a few seconds ago. If you’re going to be taking photos and most of us are doing with our phones now, do it and then put the phone down. Instead of walking around with the camera the whole time, you know with your hand as a camera and missing real life experience. Exactly. We don’t have to document everything for our social media because we went away. We could actually just enjoy it.

Faith                      

Otherwise somebody else’s enjoying your vacation. The one is looking at your pictures and you’re not because you’re so trying to get that perfect photo. Yes. Take them. And when there’s something that really inspires you, those are the photographs you want to take. The ones that really touch your heart, that awakened something within you. Grab that cause you want to remember those moments, but you don’t have to get every detail.

Lois                       

We’re in Episode 80: The Impact of Vacation. And when you think about that, you’re going to get a break. You’re going to breathe in kind of new life, new air. And if the only reason, unless you’re, you know, a journalist going on a vacation, but the only thing you’re doing is documenting it so you can show all of your social media friends what you’re doing, you might lose some of the joy you could be experiencing right there in that moment.

Faith

Yes. So be in the moment, be in the moment. Take it in, enjoy it.

Lois                         

Oh, and this is your life. I mean, sometimes when we really forget, I know this because I get into work and it’s like I can’t, I really can’t take a break. And I forget that. I don’t know what tomorrow will bring, I don’t know what next year will bring and seizing the moments and the opportunities where you can really get away. But the only way you can do that for most of us is to do a little bit of planning. And remember, this may not come your way again. That’s right. You had this beautiful trip and opportunity you had – to go to Ireland last year. And I remember the images, but most of what I remembered about your trip was, your anticipation and then on your return, your expression of the joy you got with that. And so when we miss those opportunities, we may not get those again.

Faith                    

I know. Yeah. When you don’t want to miss the opportunity, you want to take it in. It’s the experience. It’s the smells. It’s your five senses, you know, taste and touch and sight and sound and that whole expression of what you are experiencing. That’s what it’s about. It’s not about all the details. Let the details be your experience.

Lois                        

You know, sometimes we get the idea that vacation is just a luxury, but actually it’s essential to our wellbeing. Yes, it is. I mean, our family growing up didn’t have the resources to do lavish vacations, but this is what we did. We went in the back of a station wagon, you know, six kids to some in the back, some of the back seats, and we would drive all the way to Chicago to see family there. And we camped in KOA campgrounds the whole way across. Well, I remember those and speak of those to this day. So much so that we are camping with our grandchildren to give them those kinds of memories. Now is there a lot of work in camping? Yes, there is. Especially for those who are putting it together, but it’s still such a break from routine and you get to experience all these new locations that you get to do, that your wellbeing is improved and when you come back, you get back into work or whatever you’re doing with a heightened sense of fulfillment, you’ve shaken stuff out of the cobwebs, you know, so to speak in your body.

Faith                     

Yes, you can do it expensive. You can do it medium, you can do it on a camping trip that you just do sparingly. The idea is you’ve shifted things around and you have a new experience and that’s what a vacation is. It’s a break. It’s entering into the experience of wherever you happen to be. Do the thing that it sounds interesting though, cause for some people camping is like, oh, I can’t do that. Well then get a cabin. Yeah, exactly.

Lois                       

Yeah. Precisely. Yes. Do whatever is best and just remember that if you’re in a work environment and you think of yourself as the most important person in that workplace, which you might be your boss and your coworkers will survive without you. I remember having that as an excuse. You know? I don’t know if they could do this. I who can take my place when I’m going to be gone and guess what they did and they will again.

Faith                     

We are all replaceable.

Lois                       

At least for a week or a week or two. Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. And maybe you’re among those who work really, really hard and you have these good intentions. Do it. If you’ve thought about skipping out on your vacation plans this summer, we would love to suggest that maybe it’s just a three day weekend, maybe it’s a week, maybe it’s planning ahead for something in the fall. I don’t know what it is, but if you can put your head around taking a break of some sort to give your mind a bit of relief, we encourage you and would love to hear what you get as a result of that vacation.

Faith                   

Oh yes. Please tell us. Taking time away from the normal stresses you encounter at home and at work has long lasting effects.

Lois                       

The impact of a vacation could improve your health, motivation, relationships, and maybe even your view on life.

Faith                    

We’d love it if you share this podcast with anyone you know who’s considering taking a vacation – or not.

Lois                      

And join us next week for Transition: The Impact of Family.

Faith                  

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Lois                       

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Faith                  

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Lois                       

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