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Lois                        

Welcome to the podcast, More to Life with Faith and Lois.

Faith                   

I’m Faith

Lois                          

And I’m Lois.

Faith 

Our podcast explores life’s many transitions that inspire and daunt us.

Lois   

Hello Faith.

Faith

Good morning. How are you doing Lois?

Lois   

Well I can’t believe we’re at the end of 2019.

Faith

I can’t even fathom it. I don’t even know where this year went to. It just disappeared.

Lois   

You know I, I love that saying that says the days are long and the years are short cause that’s how I feel sometimes. Like it seems interminable some days that just go from morning till night. But these years, this has been a year that seems to have gone by faster than ever before and of course I’m getting older. So that makes a difference. Probably does make a difference in and on the heels of last week’s podcast about deep reflection as we’re coming to this time of year. I’m really glad that I’ve been pausing on this daily regular basis to look back on even our podcast together to see where we started, where we went in the middle portion and now where we’re going in the future.

Faith

I know isn’t it exciting? I mean to take that time to reflect and to see and to go, wow, look where we were. Look where we’ve come and what’s opening up before I says where we’re going.

Lois   

Yeah, so exciting. So if you didn’t, if you missed last week podcast on reflection, we urge you to take a listen to it or maybe share that with someone who you know really at this time of year would do well to have a little reflecting in their lives and then go on our website, which is www.moretolifewithfaithandlois.com. There’s plenty to look at on that site and you’ll be able to get our podcasts and your email every Tuesday morning if you sign up for our weekly newsletter. So today we bring you Episode 104 Transition the Impact of Peace.

Faith

So many things come to mind when you hear that word peace. Things we’ve been taught, things we’ve experienced, moments in time where we’ve felt overwhelming peace and it’s such a beautiful time of year to become quiet and to be still and to think about what brings us peace.

Lois   

And today we’re going to share with you just how do you find peace in moments throughout the day when things may be super hectic or they may be calm or they may be really sad. What do you draw on to find that peace and so Faith, I mean, maybe we’ll start with you. I mean, how do you find moments for peace in your life?

Faith

Moments of peace every day for me are just moments of stillness moments where I can get into the quiet. And one of the, my most favorite things again, is to just be outside and to listen to the stillness even if it’s not completely still. We had a huge windstorm recently and I opened the window and it was just wild wind, but going through the pine trees just was overwhelming beauty. It was an orchestra, the sound of it. And the trees were bending and I just closed my eyes and it was so cold. But to feel the blast coming in and to experience the sound and the feeling of cold brought me peace.

Lois   

Wow. I can even feel that. I know. Right. Cold and the sounds, that’s wil. That’s so beautiful. And for me, I think I was a debater in high school and I have always, you know, I had a contentious profession as a journalist so I would get in discussions with people. And so I have found in my more seasoned years that I have struggled with contention and having disagreements with people because I wondered how much I should reveal and how much I should stand my ground and what happens if they disagree. And I’ve come to this place of really finding a piece of being able to stand in truth, speak what I need to speak. And if you disagree with me that I don’t have to convince you that you need to think a different way. I think I was always trying to reach over to the other side and say, come over here. It’s really warm. It’s really nice or I don’t want anything to do with that Lois. And I’m okay with that now where before I would get frustrated so there would be contention and disagreement and I’ve got to convince you. So now that I’ve let go of having to convince someone of the way I think and yet being able to speak truth, I have no longer engaged in the battle. And I’ve realized that I can still have peace if you don’t have peace. So if you don’t like what I say, that’s okay. You don’t have to like what I say and I can still be at peace, where I used to think that I had to make you feel peace. I don’t have to do that anymore. I can just be at peace. And that’s a new revelation for me in the last few years.

Faith

And that brings you freedom.

Lois   

Huge freedom that I can just, I can sit in where I am and you can be where you are and we can still, you know, share a cup of coffee.

Faith

I love it. That’s a peaceful moment.

Lois   

At least it is for me. See. And I’m okay with that. No piece is defined as a state of tranquility or quiet and freedom from disturbance and that’s a really good thing. If you think about getting rid of disturbance in your life, whatever that looks like, and some other words that go hand in hand or are being calm or a ceasefire or harmony.

Faith

Exactly, and that’s why when we want world peace, we want all these things. We would love to see this permeate throughout the earth and to have everyone join in and that’s not possible, but it is possible how you respond that you can be a carrier of the ceasefire, you can be the carrier of harmony, you can be the carrier of calmness and restfulness. You can bring it into a situation and you can be a peace and you can actually bring peace.

Lois   

I think about that change up the atmosphere of the room as you to say, and that is just brilliant because that is what you carry with you when you walk into any place and you carry it for yourself. No one else has to even be around because I think some of us have had issues with just even being peaceful because we’re just wrestling with issues all the time. But letting go and finding this way to have harmony is just really beautiful. I found a few quotes on peace that I think are really cool and Mother Teresa said, peace begins with a smile.

Faith

And I love that. And it does. It actually does that. If you can walk into a situation or you give a clerk a smile or a thank you and you’re gentle with them, it changes. There’s a peace that falls over that encounter in that moment.

Lois 

It’s disarming. It is. What do you do with someone who’s smiling?

Faith

You respond and then peace cannot be kept by force. It can only be achieved by understanding. That’s what Albert Einstein said.

Lois 

And think about that as you want to work together with someone, especially if you’re not trying to convince somebody, but trying to come to a level of understanding. And we talked about this in our last podcast when you mentioned faith, part of reflection is is having other possibilities and you can’t explore other possibilities if you don’t want to understand someone else’s point of view. It goes without saying,.and the Dalai Lama has said, we can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.

Faith

And that is absolutely true. And there’s so many good spiritual teachers all through time that have given a similar message that if something is not settled within, you’re going to carry that into your encounters with other people. So that’s why it’s so important to find that peace within yourself and then you can bring it to the world.

Lois

And very grateful to www.marcandangel.com they had some great thoughts on peace. So how do you find peace in the storm of life that you might be in right now, especially as you’re facing a new year? Well, one of the ways is to learn how to trust yourself. I mean, it’s not, yeah.

Faith

It’s not easy because we tend to, you know, mistrust. And a lot of times that’s because some of us have been brought up to not trust ourselves that we need to trust someone else instead. But our instincts and our intuition and our, our feelings and our thoughts are all messengers to help us learn to trust where we need to stand and what we need to step into. And so when we can trust ourselves around that and learn to actually develop that more and then there, there are things that we might go, I don’t trust myself in that area. Good. That is developing trust within yourself to know what works and what does not work. So it’s growth, it’s development. And I think peace is a huge motivator to a spiritual and emotional and mental and physical development for who you are as a person.

Lois

It’s that peace of integrity. We talked about a few weeks ago and on our character. So if we’re building that and if we’re bringing love and persistence and consistency into our daily lives, then trust that what we’re doing, that our intentions are honorable and believe in yourself for that instead of doubting.

Faith

And then what are you learning? I know it’s always a learning process, but we will be learning it till we take our last breath. So let’s stay on it and let’s keep learning and let the understanding of our experiences in life develop. How do we respond? Because peace is actually a response. We have so many other choices that we could choose from. Agitation, frustration, anger, resentment, walking away and just giving up. Hopelessness, despair. Those are all negatives. But peace brings a lot of positives, hope, joy, encouragement, and a future and all kinds of things that we can begin to focus in on. So if you think about it, peace changes the mindset of how you see the world and how you see yourself.

Lois

Which is so helpful when you are on a path and you hit an obstacle and you have to change course or you have to jump over something or it doesn’t go the way you want. How do you respond? It’s a choice in that moment to learn where you’re going from and to see that maybe this detour is going to actually give you a far better outcome than you ever thought. Definitely just so much fun, you know, share with someone you trust. I think when we talk like this about peace, it’s really to remind us over and over again that we’re not alone. And sometimes we get so afraid and, and we lose that sense of peace because we look around and we see everybody else with, I dunno a hundred so many friends on whatever social media, and I only have this many, but you’re not alone. And think of the one person right now who is in your mind that you know you can trust, that you can share something with. That’s an enormous gift and know that you can achieve peace in your life if and when you need it. By giving that person a call or an email or a text and saying, I just need your support right now. May I have it?

Faith

Oh, that’s wonderful. And if you don’t have it, because there are some people who have not found that one person in their life, look for that person. Seek that person. Just be open to finding that person. And then trust is developed. And when you develop trust, then you begin to find that peace within yourself. You take step, the stepping stones of trust, one step at a time. Just risk a little bit risk, a little bit more risk, a little bit more. And eventually you’re in a trusting relationship.

Lois

That is beautiful. So as you’re working through, what does peace look like and what are, where are the storms in our lives? Just remember, these are a couple of tools and we’re going to give you a few more as well. And we’d like to share something from our sponsor, a new development that they have over at A Stepping Stone. So if you or a loved one is suffering from an addiction or mental health concern, we want to introduce you to a treatment program that specializes in substance abuse disorders and a variety of mental health issues.

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Lois

Welcome back to Episode 104 Transition: The impact of Peace. And one of the other ways that you can actually really find peace in the storm of life is to begin focusing on what it is you want.

Faith

We don’t do that enough, right? We keep thinking about, I’ll put it off or I would like to, Oh, I don’t really need to do that. Or maybe someday. And the thought of coming in and establishing what is it that I really want in life? What would bring me joy? What would bring me happiness? What would bring me fun? Those are things that add to that dimension of peace. They’re kind of the blocks in peace and we need to take time to do that.

Lois

You know when you really truly begin searching for peace in your life, if that’s your goal, you’re going to find it. That’s right. Because what we focus on, we’re going to strengthen. So if what you want is peace and finding tools and ways to do that, you’re going to find resources for someone to talk to, books to read, going online, you’re going to find avenues to be able to connect with things that will start to bring peace in your life rather than focusing on what you don’t want. And then you start, you know, highlighting all those negative things. So what have you focused on what you wanted and if peace is on that list, that is a promise we can give you. That’s right. You will find it. That’s right. Yeah.

Faith

Adding that dimension to your life of what brings me such depth to my life. That’s where your lies, you know?

Lois

And even in your mind’s eye you can say, you know, what does peace look like? I know what is I don’t know I can, and what would it be like if I was filled with peace and to start thinking of yourself that way. And then, and then where can I share this piece? I mean, those kinds of questions. If you start asking yourself, you’ll be pleasantly surprised at how you can be infused with this sense.

Faith

And then love on conditionally. Boy, that can be tough for some because if you haven’t been loved unconditionally, then it’s sometimes hard to give it, but without question, learning the practice of loving unconditionally that you will accept a person, you’ll accept even the difficult one. Oh, just for where they’re at and not take it personally. You are entering into a place of peace.

Lois

You know, you mentioned it earlier that peace is a choice and no place does this come up more strongly than right here for me because when you’re loving without expecting anything in return, and this is the end of the holiday gift giving season where you may not have achieved or received what you had hoped, but if you can take this into the new year where you are going to have people in your life who may not give you what you want and accept it and love them unconditionally, that is a choice that will transform your life because it just leaves you freer. It means you offer something. They don’t respond like you’d hoped, Oh well my intention was to give it regardless.

Faith

That’s so good. And then, then the other one is a laugh a lot. If we don’t laugh, Oh my goodness, you don’t get rid of that. That tension, that energy that can really stifle things. Laughter is a wonderful key to bring inner peace and to bring peace in the outside world as well.

Lois

You know when you’ve got some tension bottled up, one of the best disruptors of that tension that you’re just talking about is laughter. And so if you can bring that in, that can just bring peace by virtue of letting go of all that tension. It’s like cutting a rubber band and it just all flutters away and then what you’re left with, hopefully because you’re laughing, is a place where you can actually enjoy the circumstance and say, well, I guess I’ll try something different. Or maybe it’s just a funny story that you’re listening to. Either way. It’s a great outcome.

Faith

It’s a great outcome. And even if you don’t feel like I’m, I don’t have anything to love about, I’m really sad. I’m really depressed. I’m in the dumps right now. Pull up some things that are funny. I can be exhausted and tired and even in a dip, you know, and I will see something on Facebook and I have tears running down my face and I’m going and I start laughing and so it changes everything inside and I get back into that better perspective, that better place of knowing there is peace.

Lois

That perspective. I love that word faith because that is exactly what we’re talking about with peace and where it comes. And you know, if, if you would share with us what you do when things are stressful for you and when times are really tough, we would love to know how you bring peace into your life? Maybe some of these apply, maybe none of these and you have a better one. We would love to hear it and you can use any of our social media or go on our website. We would love to hear from you. What brings peace to you?

Faith

Living with peace in our lives happens when we enjoy the now, the very moment in time. It can stop us from dwelling on the concerns of the past and the future.

Lois

Everything changes and peace comes when we recognize that everything in us and around us comes and goes.

Faith

Take what you learned from each circumstance and press forward stronger with a greater understanding and respect for life.

Lois

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Faith

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Lois

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Faith

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Lois

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