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Lois 

Welcome to the podcast More to Life with Faith and Lois.

 

Faith 

I’m Faith.

 

Lois 

And I’m Lois.

 

Faith 

Our podcast explores the things you face in life that inspire and daunt you.

 

Lois 

Well, hi, Faith, how are you?

 

Faith 

I’m doing pretty good. How are you doing?

 

Lois 

I’m doing really, really well. I can just feel spring. It’s actually warming up in the Denver Metro area. And I hear so many birds, Faith, after you told us about the hummingbirds

 

Faith 

last week. I know there’s so many birds, we probably have, I think six different species that are back and they keep coming new every single day. It’s exciting. This is the best time of the year.

 

Lois 

And you know, with the increasing warmth and the buds on the trees, even though we lost a lot with that weird snow and so many deer that I’m seeing out, I just feel like there’s a sense of hope and expectancy As we’re entering the mid spring season here, and I find that a real welcome relief in the midst of everything we’ve been going through.

 

Faith 

Oh, I so agree. And it gives not only the hope but it gives them well, you just said the word relief to because you can feel the change and that when you can literally feel the change of season, then it also gives you the hope of the change of what can come for us in the future, getting post COVID. Oh, we are all looking

 

Lois 

Oh, we are all lookingforward to that, aren’t we? Right?

 

Faith 

I am.

 

Lois 

Yes, yes. In fact, that’s what we’ve been talking about what we’ve been enduring how we’ve been coping how we have been kind of surviving and thriving through COVID-19 and today we’re going to take a little shift on that because we’ve been doing all of our podcasts to let you know that we are here with you in the thick of it. And that’s why we are recording on zoom every single week to bring you a fresh podcast that hasn’t to do with the impact of shelter in place and dealing with job loss and homeschooling and managing the people we love all around us taking care of small children, homeschooling, my goodness, and all these kinds of things working from home. So any of our topics that you’d like to hear that we’ve dealt with on this are on our website, www.moretolifewithfaithandlois.com, and they are also on your favorite podcast platform. If you haven’t signed up already, please do. And they’ll just come automatically every Tuesday. And we also have a newsletter. By the way, if you go to our website, you can get those podcasts in your email each Tuesday. And by the way, also on Thursday. Don’t forget we have a new COVID-19 video every single Thursday that you can watch as well. So we share it with you, you can actually see what we’re doing in our shelter in place mode. So today Faith, we’re asking the question, How will you transition to the next phase of COVID-19?

 

Faith 

Huh, wow. And I’ve been thinking a lot about this and I think So as everybody else and I hear such a mixed review around this as I listen to friends on social media and things, some of them are adamant, like, I just want to jump back in, I want to, I want to do it the way it used to be. I want my freedom. Let me go back to work. Let me live my life. And then there’s others that are going, I’m not so sure I’m really scared. I’m holding back. So what that tells me and tells all of us is the fact that we don’t know we just don’t know what we’re stepping into. We’ve been through so much over these last several weeks. And now what’s before us is also an unknown. So we’ve faced a monumental, never have the world done this before. And we’re we did it and we’re doing it. But what we are have yet to do. We have no clue what this is going to be like. And so I think one of the first things for me That I’ve been thinking about is I’ve just got to take it a day at a time. I need to decide and pace myself. What can I do today? What is kind of the atmosphere of my environment for the day? What are the reports and I think it’s been more I know more tuned to what is really happening rather than just kind of ignoring that and living my life. So that’s one of the first stepping things into the unknown for me is that I’m going to need to really take with me the evidence and the information and weigh my day on a daily basis for a while.

 

Lois 

You know, I so like that Faith, we have been talking every week for the past five weeks about the importance of routine and we both talked about, you know, scheduling things in your day and, and I don’t know about you, but pretty much I’m not scheduling very far out. I mean, we might have clients that booked for later in the week. But in terms of actual things we’re doing in the day, they seem to be unfolding, just like you’re saying differently, so, so as not to be disappointed when one more thing falls through. Because that’s what’s happening these days. I’m really careful to look at each day every morning and say, Well, this is where I’m going to go here. This is where I’m going to go here as far as I know this. And it’s a time of preparation for me, as I look at the unknown like never before. I’ve never really, I think I just glided by and said, Well, I’ll do this, and then I’ll do that and I kind of just had to, like, look in the rearview mirror went, Oh, Did that really happen? Well, now I feel like I’m saying, Okay, I have to really think about what’s going to happen next, and I’ve used this, you know, it may be silly for a lot of people but there’s a little garden that I’m planting indoors to watch where I am and I’m coming up through week six right now, of watching these seedlings grow. I’ve never been this prepper preparatory for a garden faith. I’ve always just been put it out there, bought the seedlings and never really cared about anything other than, you know, watching them grow. And now I’ve just watched them go from seed to teeny tiny seedlings to too big to prop on their own to having actually to put sticks in and string around them on these little miniature plants. But it’s a nurturing way for me to follow and prepare for what is to come. And it just helps me be grounded, because that’s where when I’m facing uncertainty, that’s the first thing to go. My feet seem to go out from underneath me, like, it’s never gonna be this. You know, finding something to ground myself to. And so sometimes it’s just these little plants. And I really appreciate that as I step into the unknown, that I can watch what they’re doing. And yes, I’m not a plant, but I’m watching how they’re getting stronger every single day with support with help with nurturing. They’re not doing it by themselves. By the way. If they didn’t have me to do some of those things, they will would just die. So I like that, okay, I’m necessary for their livelihood and other people are necessary for mine too.

 

Faith 

That’s really good. You know, and I was just reminded that every year in January, one of the things I do for my year is I find a word that I’m going to live by. And my word for this year, unbeknownst to me, was intentional. being intentional. And, wow, have I ever had to play that out? In what I’ve gone through. But I see that word even being more important as that we enter into this unknown, of being very intentional about my steps about the information about what is wise, what is common sense about how to do it well, how to do it shorter, how to do it, you know, more conveniently, and all these things are things that I’m putting into my basket to weigh and consider with each and every day.

 

Lois 

So we urge you as you are listening to our podcast, How will you transition to the next phase of COVID-19? As you’re stepping into the unknown, the intentionality, the looking no farther than what you’re doing today, the finding a way to be grounded no matter what you’re doing are some ways to just experience some peace during this unknown. And the reason we encourage you to do that is because one of the other things you may be facing right now is restlessness.

 

Faith 

Absolutely. I still want to just go climb a tree or something like, Oh my goodness, it’s like that is a key thing. It’s so not me to be confined. I mean, I am I love to be out. I like people. I like to just jump in the car when I want and go someplace and jump into a store or whatever it might be. But just to experience the external reality of life and humanity sometimes I’ve just gone down to the bookstore and gotten a coffee and just sit, watch the people while I thumb through some books that I’m interested in. And I, I love that I love just being in the atmosphere people and I miss that terrible. So those are the that causes the restlessness inside of me of being held back being restrained that kind of that feeling. And so my husband said to me this morning, he said, Okay, I think it’s time for us to go to look out mountain tonight and just watch the sunset set and just enjoy the lights come up over the city to something completely different, just to get out to see a different scene. So we have to be intentional about how we care for our restlessness. Not only now, but it’s not going to be the same even when we enter back in. And so there’s going to be a restlessness there as well.

 

Lois 

I’ve really found a technique that I’m using, and I talked to people that I’m working with about it to faith. And I know we do body scans. And we talked about that in our work together on this podcast, mortal life with faith and Lewis. But now when I feel particularly tense, I use kind of a three step approach. And the first thing is to breathe. And I really stop whatever I’m doing. And I try to take in three deep breaths, and I count to five on the inhale and count to five on the exhale. And I do it three times. So it’s not like I’m telling you 30 minutes, you got to sit there and breathe. I’m not I’m not and because maybe you can do that right now. I can’t even seem to do that when I get restless. three deep breaths is what I need. So I start there, and then I do something to ground myself. Now I may go up and look at my little indoor garden that I have upstairs with the plants, or I may touch the table that is next to me. Or I may literally put my feet on the ground and feel grounded. But I have to find a way that I have to remember, okay, I’m right here. The earth hasn’t come out from underneath me, I’m going to be okay. This is when I’m feeling restless, by the way. And then the third thing I do is I pause. Because I am a Dewar, I am a mover. I respond immediately. And I have learned that it’s okay to pause before I do something, maybe it’s going to be a two minute pause. Maybe it’s going to be a five hour pause. Maybe I’m going to sleep on it overnight. But the idea being when I’m restless, I don’t have to fix it. I don’t have to solve something. I don’t have to have an answer right this second. And it this is been such a relief for me in my restlessness that I can, you know, breathe and ground and pause so that I can get to The next step. So I encourage you, if you’re feeling that tension right now in your chest, take a break after the podcast and think of ways that you can bring yourself out of this and move forward so that then you can go back to what faith was talking about. And look at this day, look at just one day intentionality. That’s all. That’s all we have to go through one day at a time.

 

Faith 

Hmm. And take that walk to get out into the fresh air and enjoy the beauty and the Wonder that’s all around you. I don’t care where you live. If you look up and you have a blue sky and the sun is shining, there’s something beautiful to look at. So don’t miss it. It’s all around you. That’s right.

 

Lois 

Well, on the other way is we’re thinking about transitioning to this next phase of COVID-19 is we’re feeling a bit of this tension that comes with wondering what’s next and then we have relief. Oh, we’re gonna have a you know, light at the end of the tunnel and then it’s back and then it’s forward and so faith then we arrive at something we’ve talked about so much, which is, guess what? It can be both – and?

 

Faith 

Exactly. And it’s going to be both – and for a while, yeah, because we’re going to be transitioning into what works. And we don’t know what works yet. I mean, they have the numbers of perhaps 10 being able to gather together and so you can meet for a wedding with 10 people or a funeral. I have a friend who’s going to a funeral tomorrow and only 10 people. Normally this person would probably draw 1000 people, but it’s going to be more like 10. And so those are the kind of things where you make the adjustments, but it is the both and you’re entering back in, and then we’ll see how it expands. We’ll see where it ends eventually. But oh, yeah, the tension of the both end is hard, because we like it a certain way. We’re creatures of habit. Like I said earlier to you. It’s just something we’re so used to, we want life the way we knew it. But we’re going to have to move into more acceptance, that life has changed. And it’s going to be different.

 

Lois 

It is really challenging. I had a family member who had some physical ailments and non COVID related. And this is one of the really trying things for all of us who are in the midst of this if we feel sick, because when you call in, you’re trying to figure out does it have anything to do with this? Well, this had nothing to do with respiratory, nothing to do with COVID. And there was a fear of reaching out to a medical professional, because is this important enough? Should I actually ask these questions? So I think also, our medical community is, is responding to us differently. A lot of these are going to be phone calls with your medical provider or they’re going to be zoomed connections, not in person unless you’re extremely sick. And that’s hard for us. We’re used to going in and seeing our family physician Or a specialist that has dealt with us in the past. And so it, it brings this tension out. And yet there is some relief when you do talk to this medical provider, and they assure you that you’re doing the right thing, or this is the time that you now need to go in. And we’ll find someone who can see you for this. So I’ve really noticed this, both and where there was a recognition that the phone call was actually what this person needed. And it was enough, even though it’s not the way they’ve always been used to doing it faith, just what you mentioned, it may never look the same. We may never be able to just call up our physician and go in for a variety of reasons. It might always start with a phone call this time.

 

Faith 

Yeah, those are going to be adjustments and but again, we don’t know. We still don’t know but it is going to change and we don’t know what that change is going to probably look like. And we don’t always like change. But you know what? We also adjust beautifully well, right? We just need a little bit of time, and we adapt. And we make those adjustments, and then we begin to live life from that place.

 

Lois 

And as we know, many states are starting to say that in the next few days and weeks, and certainly month, there will be adjustments and easing of restrictions. So we’re starting to think about what will it look like to go back into an office if that’s where we work or into a building or getting back to work that has not been deemed essential? Going back to school in the fall for our kids and for family members who are teachers and, and what that might look like that brings with it a lot of tension in one level, and just a lot of uncertainty of how do we deal with that going forward? And there’s almost no way to plot this out the way we think it might happen. Because Faith, we don’t know and it’s one of the first times in our lives, we’re going I think this is what’s gonna happen when I go back into my office building,but I really don’t know.

 

Faith 

I know – and and whether or not you’re going to be one of the ones that does go back into the office, or whether you’re going to be one that still worked from home for a period of time. I mean, those are all adjustments you have to continue to make, because now you’re working with people who are in office. And it’s just, there’s so many different factors in what this is all going to be and what it’s going to look like. But when you do go back, how are you going to be social distancing? And how is he going to be wearing a mask and all these different things that might be requirements for a while, and getting used to having your temperature taken every time you go through the door. Those are going to be probably parts that are pieces to this huge puzzle that are going to be put in place for your safety and the safety of others. And again, it’s going to be a new adjustment of it’s going to become the norm for a while. So you Yes. And the school factor oh my gosh, talk to young parents right now. We’re ready to pull their hair out and going, I’m not a teacher and they’re having to try to put, you know, schoolwork together for their kids. I mean, they’re desperate for them to go back to school in the fall. But we don’t know. We just don’t know. And so, yeah, there’s a lot of different things we have to look at about how are we going to adjust to whatever it may look like, through the summer, through the fall and into next year.

 

Lois 

You know, and as we look to these transitions in the next phase, I think, for me, as I observe all of this, I am simply no longer taking all of this for granted because I didn’t even it didn’t even pop into my mind, you know, planning any trip you have to do right now even if you go grocery shopping, the length of time it might take thinking about your child and how he or she is going to learn I didn’t think about what that would look like for nieces and nephews. For grandkids, it’s just it’s mind boggling. And yet now I am so aware of this. So there’s a heightened intentionality that faith described earlier that has come into my life as a result of life changing so much. And I don’t get to take this for granted anymore because this is the new normal, at least in this timeframe. And when things start to ease up, will everything else ease up most likely not. So we’ll we’ll probably see something ease and something get tighter and something ease and something get tighter until we get some rhythm that flows within that tab. And I don’t know what that will look like. You don’t know what that will look like. I think we just, if we can take the one day at a time and appreciate how things are opening up just a little bit, we might give ourselves a little more grace in this very, very difficult transition of life.

 

Faith 

That’s really good. So important to remember that we all need a little grace right now in a little kindness. Because it’s hard for everybody right now,

 

Lois 

For sure. And if you at all need to talk if you need someone to zoom with, you know Faith and I are available on a variety of levels. I mean, we do have schedules but please reach out to us on our website. It’s very easy to find us there at www.moretolifewithfaithandlois.com, Faith is a registered psychotherapist, I’m a certified life coach and we would love to chat with you and be there so that you know that you are not alone.

 

Faith 

As you know the day is coming when restrictions begin to ease around you. Consider how you might step into the unknown and look for moments of joy.

 

Lois 

Prepare for what’s next by talking with a friend, journaling and spending some time thinking about how this season is teaching you to pace yourself.

 

Faith 

You are not alone. And we are here if you need to talk

 

Lois 

And join us next week when we explore another facet of how we are managing life in these very challenging times.

 

Faith 

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Lois 

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Faith 

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Lois 

We’ll be back next week.