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Lois 

Welcome to the podcast More to Life with Faith and Lois.

 

Faith 

I’m Faith.

 

Lois 

And I’m Lois.

 

Faith 

Our podcast explores the things you face in life that inspire and daunt you?

 

Lois 

Well, hello Faith.

 

Faith 

Good morning, how are you?

 

Lois 

I am doing really well. And, you know, we’re gonna take a bit of a break from our regularly scheduled programming that we’re doing here on More to Life with Faith and Lois, to tap into something that is on the minds of most everyone that we’re speaking to these days.

 

Faith 

And it’s really important because we do care about where our listeners are at and what we are experiencing in the world. And this is an important episode.

 

Lois 

So we want to bring you a special episode on the corona virus, and especially what it’s doing to our levels of fear and anxiety.

 

Faith 

So important. Whenever there’s a crisis, we react. That’s normal. We’re human beings. And I think during this period of time, maybe we can help people who are listening to know that there’s a way to respond in a way that we can continue to live our lives in a very healthy way.

 

Lois 

If you want to go to www.moretolifewithfaithandlois.com, you can check out our website and sign up for a newsletter. But we will also on there have a link to a couple of resources that we’re offering you today, both from the Mayo Clinic and Johns Hopkins, if you want to discover more about the disease, and also what’s happening worldwide as people are dealing with the virus. But you know, if you think about corona virus, it is a family of viruses, and they cause illnesses like the common cold, severe acute respiratory syndrome, and things like MERS. And so it was discovered last year, but it really didn’t start opening up until this year and about seven weeks ago, the big cases erupted in China. Now if this comes as good news to you, we will let you know that in China now. It’s gone from 4000 reported cases a day to 40 But they have also had the exposure for seven weeks and they have been dealing with it on a massive scale.

 

Faith 

So the hope in that is there is an end, it will die down.

 

Lois 

Once you hear about corona virus and what’s happening, there are many responses and fight or flight is very, very typical. And we know that once fear kicks in, it can be hard to stop it Faith because we start getting overwhelmed and everything we see we see the corona virus and that horrible picture that thing with the red blurbs coming outside of it.

 

Faith 

Exactly. And that reactionary thing, the fight or flight, take action, persevere, all of that begins to fire up within us and we want to do something because there’s a powerlessness that happens with what if, what if this hits me What if this hits my family? What if this hits somebody that I truly care about? So of course there’s a natural reaction But there’s a better way to deal with it. And knowing that being wise and being responsible goes a long way.

 

Lois 

So today we’re asking the question, how do you deal with your own fears as it relates to corona virus, and we have a couple of ideas we’d like to offer out there, and I’m sure you have more. And if you’d like to let us know, feel free to go on to any of our social media platforms and add to this list, but one of the first things we can do as we’re dealing with our fears, is be aware.

 

Faith 

Mm hmm. Being aware as and oh my goodness, how many times have we heard over the weeks of just being alert, being aware being conscious being observant, that is a key to being able to step in and take good action.

 

Lois 

And as you’re aware, sometimes you may notice that you are over consuming. By this I mean, everything you listen to has to do with a corona virus every time you turn on your television or open up your computer or change Your phone, you’re looking at the latest report, how many cases does the Denver Metro area have? How many cases does Colorado? Does the US do neighboring states? Think about how often you are ingesting that information? Because when you do that, it can have the tendency to make you overwhelmed.

 

Faith 

Yes. And that’s another big key is to be discerning about the information that you’re getting is to weigh it and maybe double check it, but then put it aside. Because you have the information. What is more information going to offer you? Is it going to change things? Is it going to change you? I think it’s a good question to ask as you go to Google corona virus or you turn on the TV. It’s like what are you looking for? What is more information do you think is going to help you?

 

Lois 

You know, Faith, you and I talk all the time about balance. And so the reason we start with be aware is because we’re not suggesting that anyone bury their head in the sand even if you’re tired and you say I’ve heard enough of this. I don’t need to hear anymore. So we don’t want you to do that. At the same time, be careful of how much you take in. And I don’t know if that for you means I’m going to check this in the morning, I’m going to check it, you know, on my lunch break, and then I’m going to check it once in the evening. And then that’s it. Like you do other things in your life. You know, we had that podcast once weeks ago on people who were cutting down on their news media intake, because they felt that it was making them too fearful. Well, when it comes to the corona virus, this might be something that is hitting you harder than you realize.

 

Faith 

Another piece to that though, is to get good information. Because sometimes you can get the extremes on either side of where you know, the sky is falling on one hand, but then you can also get the other of it’s no big deal. Well, either extreme can really get you into a place where you don’t really know. So get get your resources from good sources of information, and then let it be the there and check out the next day.

 

Lois 

And that’s probably why we are offering to you some of the resources from the Mayo Clinic and then also Johns Hopkins, because there’s no positioning here. This is the medical situation where they have an overview of the virus, if you want to look at it, they actually share the symptoms, which are really there when to see a doctor versus just going in for absolutely anything that causes the risk factors prevention, and then how to deal with travel. So there are a lot of great ideas there that aren’t there to scare you. They’re there to inform you. And you’re absolutely right faith, where are your sources? But even with that, if you are literally on that site, every five minutes, right, you will notice your heart rate going up?

 

Faith 

Yes, yes, the idea is to move through this because we’ve been through many crisis before in various forums, and we get through them and we get through them with wisdom and clarity, not the sky is falling and it’s the end of the world.

 

Lois 

So We’re asking the question, how do you deal with your own fears and and another way is to be safe. Mm hmm. And there are plenty of really good things to do right now. I know there’s no one around now that doesn’t discuss washing their hands and doing it for 20 seconds and singing some version of happy birthday or My Corona was the latest one I heard in a public bathroom.

 

Faith 

Oh that’s really good.

 

Lois 

But finding a way that you know, I kid around that this is the gonna be the new seatbelt law. We are never gonna wash our hands the same way again. And that’s not a bad thing.

 

Faith 

That’s wonderful. That’s wonderful. Yeah, I saw some training the other night where they nurse went in and was teaching the classroom of little kids and really showing them how to wash their hands really wash their hands. And these children had never done it that way before but they’re doing it now. Yes. So that is a good thing. It’s something they will take with them for the rest of their life. And it will be in their mind and they’re going to be singing happy birthday. or something? And that’s going to make a difference. And that’s good.

 

Lois 

Yes, yeah. And if you have a cold or if you’re sick,don’t expose yourself to other people. So we’re learning things that we all took for granted before like, Well, I’m not supposed to go, but you know, I’ve got this really big project, and I have to go in. And you know, it’s, it’s as if we don’t care that we infect other people. But now because of this corona virus, I think everybody is at least taking a pause, stepping back and going, you know, I don’t know what you might have. So if you’re coughing, and you can’t just cough into your arms a couple of times, you know, please don’t, don’t show up. And that’s fair.

 

Faith 

That’s more than fair. It’s smart, it’s wise. And it can keep other viruses and other bacterial infections from happening. I think it’s an upgrade for humanity. If we take this seriously.

 

Lois 

And as you’re thinking about being safe, air travel right now is still functioning. And there are some reduced flights but I happen to fly the last two weekends –  and it was really interesting faith. What I noticed was many of the airlines now have enormous canisters of wipes. So as you walk in your hand and wipe your, you will actually know nobody touches it, you get it yourself but I mean, it’s there for you to take and you walk in and you can wipe down your seat you can wipe everything down so you feel safer about your space. And as people are sitting there, you really notice that they are using scarves, that’s what I did if I had to cough or anything like that into a scarf and fewer people are wearing masks because we’ve been told by medical professionals that that’s not really going to help you. So it and it’s much less fear mongering than walking around with masks on so I found that people were at least in these aircraft, airplanes flying people, it’s not that they took it with a grain of salt. They cleaned everything down but they were looking into their space and making sure that they felt safe, so be safe you can be and do it.

 

Faith 

Exactly. And it’s fine to have these wipes in your purse or in your back pocket and just pull them out when you’ve been someplace. And before you touch something else just to wipe it, if it helps you feel more grounded, more safe, do it. And it’s important and it’s probably just good to do periodically, during peak seasons of any kind of virus that happens. And the springtime is always the worst stresses were in it. And so yeah, it’s a good practice to carry forward, not just during this time.

 

Lois 

So as we asked the question, how do you deal with your own fears? Another thing is to be realistic. So we’re in a situation now, where for the past few weeks, we’ve been watching our economy really take a hit as a result of the corona virus, and we don’t know where that will go. Life happens. Realistically, there are things happening right now that we have to observe and you may be part of a company that’s going to conferences that are being canceled. That is being realistic. We don’t have to preemptively we can’t stop everything, but we can at least start looking and saying okay, this is about three weeks out or four weeks out, what am I going to do and having a strategy, a backup plan and talking about it with your co workers, with your bosses or with your employees, depending on where you are in your company.

 

Faith 

My daughter just mentioned to me recently that in the corporation she works for in downtown Denver said, there’s a 50-50 chance we’re going to have to work from home. So we are going to prepare now, with the idea that, no, we’re not going to do it last minute. So we’re preparing and giving you everything you need to be able to work from home, s hould that call come up, that that’s what has to happen. That’s being preparatory, that’s being realistic about we don’t know where it’s going to go, but we’re going to be prepared for it. And I think that’s just wisdom overall for all of us, as to how are you preparing? Should you be in the event that you do have to work from home, your kids do have to stay home from school for two weeks? If that happens, how are you prepared. And that’s different than moving into a panic of preparation, like we are going to be isolated for the next year, right. And people are tending to overdo preparation. As I absolutely saw when I went to a big mega store the other day to get some few things and there was absolutely nothing there on the shelves. There are no paper products whatsoever. And that’s the hoarding that can happen that says panic. And that’s what we’re trying to talk about here today. The difference between wisdom being prepared and panicking.

 

Lois 

You know, why we encourage you to be realistic is because this is uncertain. These are uncertain times. And that’s what’s reflected in the stock markets around the world. By the way, the uncertainty is scaring people. We know there are a few things we can do. And so the way we can respond is to say all right, I have no idea when this is going to end but I do know what I can do to make my home safer, this area cleaner. And I can do this. And so that’s part of the realism of saying, well, I’m actually okay in this moment dealing with this uncertainty.

 

Faith 

Yes, that’s the best way to deal with it. And, and just to be knowing that you have what you need, and you know what you can do, and having a plan. So if you do get ill, and you do get some of these symptoms, what is your plan? What would you do? If anyone your family, what would you do? How do you handle that? So that’s been grounded. And that’s being wise, you have a plan to get out of the house. If the house is on fire, we’ll have a plan. What are you going to do? Should this ever happen?

 

Lois 

You know, it’s so funny because this has been creeping up on us. And the fear is really big. But you just mentioned getting out of your house and a fire. Well, I lived in San Francisco for over 20 years. And we had an evacuation plan every home you needed to in the event of an earthquake or what you need to do or who gonna call whom? Where are you going to be? This is coming to that place where if you are feeling tense enough, fearful enough, writing things down as you and I talk about all the time can take away some of that fear because you put it on paper and go, Oh, okay, I know how I’m going to call, I know where I’m going to be. And if you even write it down as a note that you have in your household, it might do a lot to allay some of the fears that you’re having right now.

 

Faith 

That’s good point. Very good point.

 

Lois 

And then finally, breathe.

 

Faith 

Oh, yes, please breathe, take a deep breath. And just know that life is going on and life is not going to end. This is a process. This is something we’re all walking through together. And we just need to come together as good people and saying how can we do this better to protect my neighbor to protect myself to protect my family and friends?

 

Lois 

You know, and as we live through that, as we take walks in nature as we do keep certain things going like our exercise and eating healthy foods and talking with our friends. Those things are super important, especially during this time where we’re feeling a little nervous. And we sometimes forget, we clench up, and we drop those things that gave us solitude in the past. You know, maybe you need to sit down and pray. But whatever it is that will that will allow you to be in that place where you don’t let it all overtake your emotions of fear.

 

Faith 

Oh absolutely. Yeah, fear is such an internalized killer of how it can begin to dismantle our normal lives. And you don’t want to lose that even if you did have to stay at home. Even if you were restricted for two weeks or whatever. Keep your life as normal as possible. So people are doing that that are in quarantine, and don’t have you know, aren’t showing any of the symptoms but they’re important and they’re doing what the very best they can to keep their life as normal as possible. Even in quarantine, that is critical as vital that we don’t lose sight of life continues, our life is going on, it doesn’t stop. So nurture it and nurture yourself and keep hope alive and keep the positive outlook that this is. This is the time of where we can grow internally, as well as take care of ourselves externally.

 

Lois 

So in our special report that we have for you today, here on More to Life with Faith and Lois, we’ve kind of looked at how to deal with your own fears by being aware, being safe, being realistic, and breathing. And there may be many more ways that you have found to actually cope and function and deal with those things that are frightening you and if you have more and better and other ideas, please share them with us. We would just love to hear how you are dealing with this phase of the life we’re living right now.

 

Faith 

Oh, that’s so good.

 

Lois 

So join us next week and we will most likely Be back on track. And if we are we’re going to be talking with you about how do you discern what’s best for your body?

 

Faith 

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Lois 

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Faith 

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Lois 

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