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Lois 

Welcome to the podcast More to Life with Faith and Lois.

 

Faith 

I’m Faith.

 

Lois 

And I’m Lois.

 

Faith 

Our podcast explores the things you face in life that inspire and daunt you.

 

Lois 

Hello, Faith

 

Faith 

Hello Lois

 

Lois 

This exploration into being generous is kind of really cool for me because it It affects my life in in when I receive kindness from someone or, or or meditate or read a scripture, it calls me to be more generous, and I’m like going, Okay, I get it. I get it.

 

Faith 

I know and then what do you do with it?

 

Lois 

I then want to return. There you go. Because it’s starting to seep through and I’m observing it and I’m seeing it. You know, months ago, we talked about waking up and being awake and, and being generous is part of that. Because if you think about how you address people, what you think about them, and then how you go about your daily lives. makes a huge, huge difference. So if you want to check out any of our podcasts, go to our website www.moretolifewithfaithandlois.com. We know that we’re on every podcast platform as well, including the one you’re listening to. And make sure you subscribe, please, and sign up for our newsletter if you’d like to get our podcasts really easily in your inbox every Tuesday. So now that we’re seriously taking to heart the importance of being generous, here’s Episode 113: How does generosity show up in your craft?

 

Faith 

And it should. Yeah, it’s the place where you spend the most time right. And it’s an opportunity every single day for you to be generous in what you offer to those that you work with or those that are influencing you or those that you influence. And for me, being a psychotherapist and a spiritual director. It offers me always the opportunity to be generous in what we’ve talked about. Before in how I listen, and how I respond, and to see that person for who they really are, rather than the issue that they’re presenting, because the issue is never the issue. It’s more about what is going on deeper within that person. So it’s listening at that place where I can then ungenerously respond and be a mirror of reflection back to them, of who they really are. And I can’t think of anything greater. I love doing what I do for that very reason. It’s a way to give a gift of saying on, but this is who you really are,

 

Lois 

And their response must be unbelievable.

 

Faith 

It’s usually a lot of tears, because they’re not always seen at that place. And we all have done this where we begin to believe the lie that we are what we do, rather than who we are.

 

Lois 

Wow, We could stop right there. But we have a few more minutes at this beautiful thing. You know, there are moments when I get so blown away by an act of generosity that I have to catch myself. And I want to share something that happened to me a number of years ago, it was a really difficult conversation I had to have with my boss when I was in Houston, and I had signed up for a three year contract to be working in news there. And my father’s all timers had reached a stage for more care. And I knew it was important at that point to be with him and my mother, and back in Denver, not in Houston, Texas. So I had to go have this extremely difficult, difficult conversation and asked to be released from my contract. And I was so afraid and I, you know, tried to catch everything and what can I do and you know, they had moved me out there. Well, the kindness that was extended to me upon hearing my situation was so over the top I was released from my contract, I was allowed to leave with unbelievable blessing. And we still have a relationship to this day. And I recall that because that’s not always the case. And it has shaped me in how I respond to people who’ve had to make big changes in their lives, who have committed something with me, but then had to make a shift because life got in the way in a very difficult, challenging method. Knowing what happened for me has given me a lens that every time somebody comes to me like that, I remember but Eddie did I get even emotional thinking about it, because because of that kindness, it’s very difficult for me to look at somebody else who’s in a similar difficult situation and say, What Nope, can’t can’t help you there. Because I know what happened to me and how it opened up all these doors for the new life that I have. That generous act shaped so much of what happened in the last eight years for me So thank you, Eddie again. And I’m so grateful as I move forward in my life that I have that as a backbone, and a backdrop to relate to people who are in difficult circumstances.

 

Faith 

That’s a perfect example.

 

Lois 

Isn’t that generous? Really generous. And you know, being generous is not the same as charity. Charity actually provides for someone in need and generosity as we’ve been talking about these last few weeks is doing more than one would expect. And that includes your money and time and resources. And and we’d like to thank the folks at www.benderconsult.com, www.consciouscompanymedia.com and www.hbr.org for some really great ideas on how to be generous with your colleagues, with your superiors or with your employees. And so we’re going to offer you a couple of ideas today of what to do in the workplace.

 

Faith 

One of the things is to make their lives easier or better. And that’s not thinking about yourself, right? You might be at the office thinking, what are they doing for me? And but if you can flip that, and think about what can I do for them to make their lives a little bit easier. And that can be by starting with a goal to ease up their lives, and just to see how you could be supportive or helpful or encouraging, or complimentary to what they’ve done, and saying, Wow, that was an awesome thing that you did, instead of being possessive of I have to get all the credit for things. And so I think it’s an opportunity in the workplace to kind of evaluate, how am I interacting with those around me? Am I doing a good job? Or am I being a little stingy, and wanting it to be more about me than me offering myself into how can I make the workplace better for everyone, including the company,

 

Lois 

And you’d mentioned something earlier as we talked, how can I help when you come into the world When you come into your supervisor when you come into your colleagues, instead of worrying about not measuring up if there’s a comparison going on, how can I help me defuses that tension? That’s one of the most generous questions you can ask instead of, why are you treating me like this? It there’s a huge difference. And you can actually accomplish what you want in terms of being treated better when you are easing the life of someone around you in their work.

 

Faith 

How often have we heard stories about the janitor or someone in the mailroom who has this really good attitude? And they’re always laughing or complimenting somebody on something and everyone loves that person. They don’t ever ask for anything in return. They just love giving to people. We probably all know someone like that somewhere and it’s not about their position. It’s about their heart and you have the same opportunity to bring your heart into the workplace.

 

Lois 

You know, there are some people who hum a lot. And there are some people who whistle and have you ever noticed that like in the workplace, you walk around and you’ll hear someone humming or whistling? You know, they can’t be stingy and, and angry at that moment because they’re, they’re using energy and air to do something that allows a lighter space around you. So consider that as you’re in the workplace or interacting with people how you are perceived in that in that moment, that you have this brightness and that lightness that comes with a smile and maybe a little whistle every now and then.

 

Faith 

So if you’re ready to, to complain, whistle

 

Lois 

what are the other ways to be generous with your colleagues and your superiors or your employees is to share information readily. Have you ever had this happen where you got a big, you know, juicy piece of information that you have at your desk and someone comes up and they’re You know, you’re working on a project together, and you’re so afraid to give up any piece of it for fear of what will happen? Well, what if you did choose to share that information so that the project could be done with even more speed, because now someone else can join you in this effort. And you have two people or four people tackling this project from different angles, because you didn’t hang on so tightly. So consider how, how you can do that you may think there are certain times where you can’t share or you’ve got a clandestine operation. But for the most part, my guess is, in daily work, there are areas that you could share information that might be helpful to your colleagues.

 

Faith 

That’s a good one. And there’s another one that were generosity can really blossom and flourish and that is being respectful, be respectful of the other person’s time and their space instead of just barging in and saying I need or I want or this has to be done. Might be much more generous kind way of saying, whether it’s on the phone or face to face to say, Is this a good time? Can I have a moment? Do you have a minute to talk to me, or let me know when there’s some space because I want to run something by you. That’s being so respectful and respect is a generous spirit, instead of demanding what you need and want, and it can change how you’re seeing how you’re perceived. And people will begin to trust you and be responsive to you, because you’ve been responding to them and who they are.

 

Lois 

And then that gets back to listening. Because if you barge in on someone and you don’t ask for permission, or do you have the time, how well may they listen to what you want to say, right? And then you accuse them of not being able to listen well. It’s because they were in the middle of something else. And I think sometimes we misconstrue situation. Where if we could take a pause and say, love what you just said, you know, do you have a moment? And if not, is there a better time and get that, get it in writing, schedule it, and then be certain to be there when they said they are available so that you can have a really wonderful conversation, right.

 

Faith 

And if it’s important, you can say, I do need a moment with you let me know when it’s good, because this is really important, and I need to run it by you. Again, you’re just in that place of respecting and honoring that person. That’s a beautiful, generous gift to give.

 

Lois 

And you both will have full attention. We’re on episode 113: How does generosity show up in your craft? And another way, which we kind of skated on a moment ago is to share credit easily. And you know, it’s always great when we know we’ve done a great job, but what about someone else who’s done a great job? It is interesting that there are reports that say 80% of employees say it’s extremely important to be recognized by their managers for good work. Most people leave because they feel they haven’t been seen. If you’re looking at a workplace and seeing people quit over and over again, they don’t feel honored, respected, treasured, listen to all of those kinds of things. So if you are working with a colleague, or if you’re in a supervisory position, or even if you’re a subordinate to someone else, and you see something that’s been done, well  -give credit .

 

Faith 

That is so good. And so important, because we are all of us are human beings. And we want to know that what we do is valued. And if it’s not honored, or heard or seen or acknowledged, periodically, it does begin to build it doesn’t matter doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter. And then that’s where you see people leave.

 

Lois 

And when you’re doing that, when you’re giving someone else credit and sharing the credit, you know what, the well doesn’t run dry. We don’t have to be afraid that if we give them credit, then we won’t get the credit. Are you kidding? If you share the credit with someone and the person with whom you’re working knows that You or someone else has actually done more of the work, guess what’s going to happen more than likely they’re going to bring you or that other person up to the surface. Because you spoke up first and you gave them a shout out. Just try it.

 

Faith 

That’s good. That’s really good. And if they don’t let it go, yes, don’t hold it against them. Just move on. Your credit will come in due time, and still give it to them exact again. And give generously of your skills no matter what others do. Perform the best of your abilities, comparing yourselves to others, and their lack of performance will lead to disappointment. And to you offering less than what you can do measure yourself on what you are able to do and what you can give. So it’s the comparison thing will wreck you. And it’s like you have a unique presence of something that you’re bringing into the company that you need to honor within yourself. Nobody else really What you bring, but that’s true of everybody else. And so when you see that and you work with that, you suddenly begin to see things from a different perspective, instead of it should be done the way I think it should be done or the way that I am insistent to be done. Maybe that person has a unique way of doing it. That could be compliment them on it.

 

Lois 

Well, and you know, when you hold yourself back, you can almost see the shrinking that’s happening right? Instead of you sitting in your full power and being able to do your job well and and use your talents to the best of their abilities. You start shrinking because Joe over there or Susie isn’t doing what they’re supposed to do. So I’m going to, you know, come down to this level, instead of will still do what you want to do still do what you’re good at. And I think that’s the place where we give up a lot of wonderful things that could be happening because we’re comparing all the time and we don’t if they’re not doing more work, I’m not going to do

 

Faith 

And if that person is holding You’re back because you do need something that they have, instead of saying, I need that and go to them and say, Is there something I could do to be able to get this information? What would be helpful in coming alongside you because we need to work together on this. I mean, it’s a generous gift again, of spirit that you’re giving to another person instead of demanding, demanding doesn’t go very far. It gets back to how can I help.

 

Lois 

What a concept? How can I help us all get to where we want? Yeah, it’s such a different mindset, if you think about it going in. And that’s what our whole conversation this month on generosity has been. It’s making that shift to thinking of generously and in all areas, even if we haven’t been helped in the way we felt we should be helped, we can still help others because being generous in the workplace is not a trait of the ordinary.

 

Faith 

It is not. It’s not at all These concepts offer you a powerful approach to working with your team in a way that will offer you and everyone around you success.

 

Lois 

It really does. And so, we encourage you as you embrace generosity in your relationship, and realize that how it impacts your body. See it in your spiritual practice, that it’s really much easier to spill over into how you manage yourself in your craft.

 

Faith 

When you are generous to yourself and your colleagues, you create a workplace filled with a greater sense of purpose, and the desire to grow as a team.

 

Lois 

Practicing generous behavior makes you want to work to the best of your abilities, which often will encourage those around you and create greater productivity.

 

Faith 

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Lois 

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Faith 

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Lois 

No matter what you face in relationships, your body, spirituality or your craft.

 

Faith 

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Lois 

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