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Lois 

Welcome to the podcast More to Life with Faith and Lois.

 

Faith 

I’m Faith.

 

Lois 

And I’m Lois.

 

Faith 

Our podcast explores the things you face in life that inspire and daunt you.

 

Lois 

Well, hello, Faith.

 

Faith 

Good morning, Lois. This is quite a day, isn’t it?

 

Lois 

It’s quite a day and I’m so glad that we can keep our social distancing efforts and yet stay connected. This time through zoom. So I’m so glad we’re together again.

 

Faith 

I know it’s always good to be together no matter how we are making the connection. Just seeing your lovely face makes my day.

 

Lois 

Right back at you my dear friend. So and especially during this Coronavirus season so much has changed in our lives. So if you’ve been listening to the More to Life with Faith and Lois podcast, you know that we’re taking a bit of a pause a shift just as we’re pausing and shifting in all of our lives right now. So that we can focus On what we’re learning during this season and the impact of staying in place and dealing with job loss, homeschooling, whether you’re managing older family members or taking care of small children working from home, those are all the areas that you’re probably thinking about a little differently. So we have tailored our podcasts to focus on these areas just for you. And if you’ve missed any, or if you want to listen to something that has nothing to do with the Coronavirus, you know, you can go to our website, www.moretolifewithfaithandlois.com, or your favorite podcast platform. And by the way, we do send out an email every week, so you kind of know what you’re going to be hearing. And if you’d like to be on that list, you can go online, and you can sign up and share our podcasts with anyone and everyone. So we’re also offering Facebook Lives or videos every week, depending on technical issues that we may or may not encounter, right.

 

Faith 

That is for sure. We do get them.

 

Lois 

We do and I think with of us online, we are so fortunate and grateful every time we can be out there. So we will do our best at 11am Mountain Time on Thursday to be joining you. And if you don’t see us live, that just means technical difficulty – so we will be up within the hour. So here we are now in a special edition of our podcasts. And we are focusing this week on Finding Hope in the Midst of the Coronavirus era.

 

Faith 

And that’s such a good topic because when you hear the news and you hear the reports, it’s easy to be a little frightened and obviously to move into some despair, because we aren’t sure where we’re all headed in this and we’re cautious and so the alarms are going off. So to hear the good to hear the changes and hear the things that can happen for us during this time. That gives us hope.

 

Lois 

You know you sent me a video last week and I’ve been looking at pictures of the canals in Venice and if you Only look at the physical perspective. In our world, you can see that environmental healing is taking place like we’ve never seen and face. That brings me when I look at those images and when I listen to some of these reports and hear from the scientists, I’m really blown away by what happens when we humans change so much of our lives, the level of pollution is drastically different.

 

Faith 

Hmm, it is amazing. I’m stunned by how quickly the earth is ready to heal itself, if given just the chance. And then there was another one that popped up yesterday of you know how the wildlife is moving into the areas where we all live because there’s no activity going on. So deer are coming into backyards, and that’s throughout the entire country. I’ve been seen posts from my friends in Wisconsin. There’s big huge turkey outside their condo that’s never been there before. And Bob cats and deer that are all coming right up to where everyone lives. The little bit of a scary one was one in Boulder in a populated area, and there were three mountain lions in their front yard. Okay, that I’m not so sure about. But it does tell us that, you know, the environment is ready and the wildlife is ready to heal itself and to become a part of what we have done a lot to put walls up in them, our environment that surrounds us.

 

Lois 

And the other really large perspective I think a lot of us are noticing is the human perspective, when you see that neighbors are watching out for neighbors in ways that they never did before. Not that I have the best neighbors in the world and I’ve mentioned a number of them regularly, but they just are better and better. Through this whole Coronavirus era, because we know that our contact is limited, like over a fence or across the street, or as we’re walking our dogs and we move apart from each other just to have a conversation. But the conversations we’re having faith are different. They’re deeper, just almost instantaneously, because all of us are facing a loss instead of just one of us. We’re all in this together in a in a way that I have never seen before. Just in terms of my human connection with people that aren’t in my closest sphere of life, but are in a very important sphere of life.

 

Faith 

We’re all emotionally connected for a change,instead of it always been about what we’re doing right? And because also the conversation you know, how is your day What are you doing? How’s your work? How are the kids doing where, you know, where are they at in school, it’s about all the doing, and this is more about our feelings more about what is deep inside about us as hard. This is be frustrating This is a  little scary. And we’re all in this together means we’re all in this together emotionally as well as moving through this time in our lives.

 

Lois 

And you know these unexpected kind efforts that people are making are blowing me away yesterday was Easter and many of you celebrate Easter This is the time of Passover but someone in our neighborhood and I still don’t know who decided to go up and down the blocks in our area, and they put these little peep bunnies on a stick and they stuck one in every front yard and they weren’t you know, you can eat them I suppose. Now it was snowing in Denver yesterday. So weird weather. But I ended up reaching out to several of my neighbors who I knew probably wouldn’t go out their front door because it was snowing and the weather was bad. And they took them in, put them in flower arrangements and sent me images. Well, this is where our pipe is, well, this is where our papers and it was a wonderful way to connect. I have no idea who left those But it was such a gesture that required all of us to just enjoy and say, in all the years we’ve lived here, no one’s done anything like this. And thank you, thank you, thank you.

 

Faith 

It’s fun. It’s like the creativity of people during this time has been amazing. You know, seeing people in their convertibles with the big bunny in the back, you know, waving that the kids up and down the streets. It’s creative, love that I call it it’s like a way to give a touch of love to people, whether you know them or not, doesn’t make any difference, that you’re making a difference when people are not able to truly connect in the outside world. So I love it. I love the creativity of people in what they’re doing.

 

Lois 

You know, and the other impact is kind of all of us on a personal level. And that’s where faith and I will dive into a lot for the rest of our podcasts but it’s really forcing us to slow down for those of us who function on a very high level of speed and activity, this entire scenario, even if we still stay in that fast mode is slowing us down in a way that we are watching our neighbors or watching others, but we’re getting a chance to see what it looks like for us. Just you just me to actually slow down. And some of us don’t experience that very much in our lives. And it’s giving many of us and I’ll just even speak for me, it’s giving me moments to ask myself, you know, what is next? How is this all working out? For me? Is this working out in the way I want it? And what do I want? Who do I mean, a lot of those deep questions that we ask ourselves occasionally are coming much more quickly for me to the surface.

 

Faith 

Hmm. I know it’s a very kind of intimate time with ourselves if we will take the time to really reflect on To enjoy, and to consider, and to dream, and you know, everything we’ve been talking about on our podcast from day one, we now have the opportunity during this season to actually do it. No excuses out there. Because you can do this right now you’ve got the time. And it’s a precious time that you know, eventually is going to start to fade and go away. And we’ll get back to our normal routines. And so journaling and reflecting and reading and creating and imagining and dreaming like where do I want to be? What do I want to how do I see myself in five years or 10 years? What a gift we are being given in the midst of this, which we can you know, kind of say it’s a curse and it is in for health and the people who are suffering, but it is a gift in disguise, I call it for those of us that can actually Take a deep breath and do something different. Like for instance, I’m actually doing more cooking. And I quit cooking because my husband is on a very limited diet. And so I keep his diet going, what works for him, and I just kind of make up for myself, Well, you can’t go out and you can’t go shopping all the time. You have to be intentional. So I’ve been very intentional about making various kinds of meals. And it’s kind of cool. I haven’t done it a long time since the kids are gone. And so it’s kind of fun to be able to get back and be in the kitchen. Oh, I can still do this. And I can do it okay. And so that’s kind of fun.

 

Lois 

Yeah. And that’s a great example of finding a glimmer of hope, this hope that we’re talking about in the midst of the Coronavirus, and, you know, something that I’ve brought up on a number of occasions Is that something I call Post Traumatic Growth. And it’s this idea that in a very difficult situation, how can you be resilient or who are the people that are resilient. So I’ve actually been using this time to facilitate growth in different areas of my life and expanding, just like you just talked about cooking, where you don’t normally do it because of the lifestyle you have been leading. I have added things to my life that are that I’m now doing on a regular basis, and I’m eating them up before I would like make it really elaborate. Like it had to be this large thing. Now I’m saying I actually need the regularity. So I boiled down my way of making kombucha so I can do it every week, I actually decided to get an Insta pot. Thank you for all of you who have been pushing me on this so that when I make my broth, it’s not a two day effort. It’s a two hour effort, so that I can do that every week. I’ve got a garden that’s indoors, it’s I’m keeping it on a small card table. I’m not making it any bigger than that I’m I’m reducing. Sometimes I would just go for something and I just go way too far. This whole time is showing me that I can have hope in small quantities. Repeat, repeat, repeat and get joy out of it. So thank you for this season, showing me that I don’t have to go in on such a big scale. I can enjoy things and repeat them over and over again and they’re helping me thrive and they’re helping those around me thrive.

 

Faith 

That’s beautiful. So

 

Lois 

That’s one way so I love we all we both love Brene Brown and she says if we want to make meaning, we need to make art. So cook or write or draw or doodle paint, scrapbook take pictures collage, she goes on for a lot of things. It doesn’t matter. As long as we’re creating. We’re cultivating meaning and Faith, this is what we talk about so much and it’s like so how are we going to cultivate meaning during this Coronavirus era. And we’ll go through a number of ideas today, which we’ve already brought up, which are very helpful. And phase you mentioned it when you were speaking. What about this idea of journaling how Is that manifesting for you, or just connecting with your writing during this time?

 

Faith 

I’ve been doing quite a bit of writing, which the world kind of distracts me from that at times, I’ve been doing some collage writing, which is very interesting because I found kind of a new way of doing a collage. And that is to find, when I’m the image that I want online, put it on to my page, write about it, and then add more images. So I’m integrating my images with my writing. And it’s been so much fun. And then not only is it just kind of a curious adventure for me, but it is revealing so much of through the images and the words about what’s going on internally. So it’s been a very interesting journey. I’m enjoying it a lot and intend to probably absolutely continue to do it long after this is all over with. So that’s fun. It is fun.

 

Lois 

I love that, you know. And I’ve always done so much writing that in during this season, I’ve gotten more comfortable with my camera on my phone. And I’ve been using my iPhone to do videos of me doing certain things that I’m creating. And usually I’m a little embarrassed about things like that. And during this season, I’m just going well, what the heck, I’m growing and I’m having a lot of joy out of this and maybe someone can get an idea for how they could do something in a very small space. So I have kind of let go of that fear of sharing something that isn’t perfect. That isn’t just exactly that the way I would want to present and saying, hey, guess what? Today I found a way to get some relief and I’m getting a lot of relief through my garden because I can’t spend time outdoors. Well, we don’t in Denver anyway, we would have a full more month before we could really get into gardening outside. So this era of doing stuff with my hands In with the seeds and little seedlings in my little makeshift indoor garden is making me it’s it’s, it’s got it’s coursing through my veins, I don’t know how else to say it. I just feel like I’m going from the seed to the seedling to the plant stage on a regular daily basis and I feel like growth and it’s just fun to watch.

 

Faith 

You’re identifying with it. And it’s a part of your internal process as well as your as you’re touching your external process. And yeah, it’s wonderful for you to share it because it’s there’s a lot of gardeners out there that have a dream for what’s about to come around the corner. So yeah, it’s inspirational.

 

Lois 

It is inspirational. So we’re talking about where and how you find hope in this Coronavirus era and, and Faith, how are you able to reconnect with nature? Because that’s a piece that is really important for all of us throughout this time.

 

Faith 

I love where we live for starters and to be able to see the crocus come up and our daffodils and our little tiny miniature irises starting to bloom. And the snow is on top of it right now, but that’s okay. This will melt. I’m seeing the beauty of new life of the spring happening. The fish are coming out in our pond. And, you know, there’s just the evidence of change. And so I like to look at the trees and the birds and the birds are returning. I put up my hummingbird feeder because it’s that time of year. I’m not here yet, but they’re close. And so all of these different things are anticipatory for me. I’m anticipating what is right there. It’s almost there, almost tangible. And that gives me hope, because that’s what this whole virus thing is about is that getting beyond it, it’s almost there. We can reach it. We will get there and Yeah, I love nature and I would speak right now. It’s comforting. It’s comforting to hear the birds singing their spring song. When we’re inside, I open the window and hear them sing. So it’s good. Life is happening. And we need to be a part of that.

 

Lois 

Another way to find hope in this Coronavirus area is to really try to stay healthy with some form of exercise. And you know, if you’ve got kids at home with you right now, and you are homeschooling and you’re part of all of this, you could do stuff together. And that’s what I’ve really noticed with the people I’ve been in touch with who have small children, they have actually decided to use a lot of the movement that their kids need to do and incorporate it into something group like so if they can’t go outside because they have snow like we do right now. They’re finding ways to dribble a basketball inside or find a new game that the duck duck goose I mean, it was just really interesting to be chatting with people who are finding ways to stay healthy and physically in motion by incorporating their kids. And, you know, I’ve watched one of my son’s who’s come over here and he has an entire area down in the basement which had never been used before to be doing absolute workouts. He’s created this, you know, thing in our backyard that he can play disc golf in our backyard with measurements. So there are ways that you can do things in place that keep you physically activated. And now what’s important for me I’ve really noticed is I break up my day, like we’ve talked about before, what’s important. And so I look at how much time I’ll spend behind the computer how much time I’ll have with appointments and then I’ll say now, I schedule a 30 minute break, and it has to be walking, whether it’s around my Park that’s close by whether it’s doing a form of exercise, but at the end of the day, it may turn out faith that I get more exercise during this time because I’m so aware of the need to stay physically moving.

 

Faith 

That’s so good. That’s so good. Yeah, we can You have to be able to move and keep walking. And everything I’ve read, they’re saying, if you can just walk, it’s not about doing a lot. It’s right, that’s going to make a difference, you’re going to sleep better, you’re going to feel better, your diet will be more balanced. And it’s just going to center you to be able to be outdoors and to take some deep breaths. And go, life is still really good. And I’m in it and be blessed that you’re well, you’re not sick, be so grateful on those walks, I can walk, I can be out here. I’m not sick, and I’m grateful.

 

Lois 

Oh, that’s beautiful. And call the people who are important in your life. If you want to find hope, in this time, be that hope for somebody when you call them and they’re in a place that’s that they’re struggling or they will be the hope for you if you’re in a place. You know, I’ve just noticed this back and forth with friends with family. You know, one day one person is doing better the next day, this one First one is doing better. So the more you contact, you find that, as we know, with our good friends, right, we lift each other up. And sometimes we need to be lifted up ourselves. And we can have this happen if we stay in connection. So some of you may have a very small circle, hang on to that small circle. It’s okay even if it’s one person, sometimes I heard a friend the other day say to me when we were talking, well, I only have this first I said, well, let’s do it every day. I have no problem. Let’s, you know, so let’s connect and just know how critical This is during this time to not feel alone. And so I urge you, however, you can – connect.

 

Faith 

Mm hmm. We’ve been gifted with so much media, you can do FaceTime. You can use zoom, whatever you want to grab on to, and make a quick connection and even the Marco Polo that we talked about. That’s a real quick little thing of where you can just hop on and say hi, how you doing, and there’s a good connection back and forth. So use it. Use the wonderful technology that we have to make those connections.

 

Lois 

And learn something new. You know, that great line if you’re not earning be learning. So I mean, just get out there and figure out what is it. I mean, while your kids are having their coursework, which we all know is reduced, reduced, reduced, so they have a lot more free time. But maybe while they’re learning and doing whatever they need to do, or doing their homework, that could be a time for you to learn. Maybe there’s a project that you’ve had that was much more complicated, and it took so many more hours than you anticipated. This might be the time to pick that back up, you know, or something you love to do. I mean faith with your cooking. It’s like learning a new way to eat again, just because we’ve been put in this situation that might you might translate that for a much longer period of time.

 

Faith 

Hmm, I know. It’s like, there’s been lots of lots of ways to find. Well, if you like there’s a craft or something like that, that you have been wanting to do. This is a perfect time to step in and to learn that something new that It’s small, but it’s sitting in your closet, if you’ve been meaning to go there and get it out and do it, now’s the time, now’s the time to do it, and to and to see if it is something that you enjoy doing and expanding on. So I think a lot of times too, it can just be a vision I’ve been doing. I’m so visual, and I’ve been thinking about my future. And that is where I’m learning something new, like, what could be the next phase of my life? What can I see myself doing? So even if you don’t like doing things, think about where you want to be, and start imagining that’s something new.

 

Lois 

And as both Faith and I love to read many different things and watch and listen to beautiful music, do all those three, and mix it up so that they are things that bring you joy. And if you find because you probably will if you’re testing out a lot of things, that something starts bringing you down, stop it, just stop it. You don’t have to watch it. The whole series you know, we started something and I realized, wow, this has a really dark undertone. I can’t handle that right now in my life. I don’t know if I’ll even want to pick it up later. But it was a really good aha moment to say, I need things right now that are going to encourage me not to take me down because I already have enough that’s in the world that’s taking me down. So think about what it is that you’re ingesting during this time, so that it can bring you back to that place of wanting to give and be refreshed.

 

Faith 

That’s really good advice. Because what we see what we watch does impact us even if we think it doesn’t, it does, and switch it change it up. This can also be a time to watch comedies more and to laugh. And I love I’ve I’ve said many times I love getting on Facebook and seen some of the funny things that people put up. And sometimes I have tears of laughter coming down. That makes my day it helps me a lot to laugh like that.

 

Lois 

So we hope that you are able to find these glimmers of hope through this Coronavirus area era. And if you need to talk please Faith is a registered psychotherapist, I’m a certified life coach. Reach out to us you can find us on our website www.moretolifewithfaithandlois.com, we are here.

 

Faith 

If you’re feeling the pressure of stay in place, consider how our world – and maybe even you – is beginning to heal with the slowdown in human activity.

 

Lois 

And explore where you might grow and try something different during this time, learn a language or pick up a project that you’ve neglected for years.

 

Faith 

We’re not alone. And we are here if you need to talk

 

Lois 

And join us next week when we explore another facet of how we are managing life in these challenging times.

 

Faith 

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Lois 

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Faith 

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Lois 

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